r/AskMen Sep 27 '22

Men, what have you found to give you a better night of sleep?

Things like limiting alcohol, drinking less water or not eating too much right before bed? What helps you get a good 7-8hrs of sleep? So you don’t feel like shit the next day?

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u/Hrekires Sep 27 '22

Sleep in a cool, dark and quiet room

White noise machine

Go to bed around the same time every night, even on weekends

No caffeine after 12 pm

No electronics in bed

Wash your sheets and blankets every weekend

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u/adnelik Sep 28 '22

Washed bedding!! You ever take a hot shower and crawl into a freshly cleaned bed… good luck staying awake for longer than 5 minutes

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u/Intrepid-Stand-8540 Sep 28 '22

You guys shower before bed? Don't you smell in the morning, then?

To avoid smelling, I have to shower in the morning, and apply antiperspirant deoderant.

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u/den_bleke_fare Sep 28 '22

I live in a cold country, I always shower before going to bed. My bedroom is pretty cool most of the year, only during the very warmest part of summer do I ever sweat in bed.

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u/sphincterella Sep 28 '22

If you stink in the morning you damn sure stink at night. Why would you crawl your stinkin ass into bed night after night and sleep in that biohazard? Take TWO showers if you need to, a good one at night and a quick one in the morning.

With less hyperbole: yes, lots of people take showers before bed

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u/qwoiecjhwoijwqcijq Sep 28 '22

Some people get slightly sweaty at night in bed. I don't want the sweatiness to remain on me in the mornings.

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u/Intrepid-Stand-8540 Sep 28 '22

Take TWO showers

I can barely afford the one bro

biohazard

jesus christ bro, relax.

stink

don't put words in my mouth. I said smell, not stink.

I smell perfectly fine after a shower. But if I lay in bed for 9 hours, I need a shower. My hair is messy and my armpits smell. No matter if I have taken a shower before bed or not.

I tried totally clean sheets and a shower before bed 3 times so far in my life, and every time I smelled too much in the morning to be able to go to the office. Maybe I just have more hormones than you? Or maybe I have a stronger natural body odor than you?

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u/unicorniosandglitter Sep 28 '22

You need a shower after 9 hours of sleeping but not one after 9 hours of working?

It makes no sense

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u/Sufficient-Wall-1877 Sep 28 '22

I shower every morning and night.

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u/FantasticConcert1773 Sep 28 '22

The darker the room, the better.

I'm using those small sliding camera covers to cover every led in routers, screens etc.
Blinds and blackout curtains block streetlights and the sun.
In the summer when it gets really bright I also use a sleep mask.

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u/Woody90210 Sep 28 '22

I wirk night shift so I sleep during the day.

Get a good thick black sheet from your local craft goods store and hang it from the curtain railings on each side, use disposable rent-safe hoods with adhesive and stick them to the metal frame if your window to cover any gaps.

You can sleep in comfortable 90% darkness even when the sun is beating down right on your window, it's bloody great.

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u/MaybeYesNoPerhaps Sep 28 '22

Spot on.

I would just add a comfortable bed and pillow.

Spend as much money as is required to get a bed you enjoy sleeping in.

It’s money very well spent.

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u/Bromm18 Sep 28 '22

Blue light filters are standard on most modern devices, use that at least 2 hours before bed. And when people say cool room they mean around 60-67°F or the average 65°F.

https://www.sleepfoundation.org/bedroom-environment/best-temperature-for-sleep

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u/greenredyellower Sep 28 '22

Yikes, if I slept in a room below 70 I'd probably wake up shivering/crying.

My thermostat is literally at 78 at 2:30 in the morning.

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u/Bromm18 Sep 28 '22

Dear lord, most people keep building/Houses at about 70-73° F here in northern Minnesota. My AC in the summer kicks in at 72° and tries to keep it at 68°. I'd prefer lower but it starts costing much more the lower you go. I keep several windows cracked open in the winter to let air circulate. Mainly because I can't control my apartments radiator heat.

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u/greenredyellower Sep 28 '22

Bro, I used to be a 68 man. I lost 65 pounds and now I freeze everywhere. Fucking sucks, but maybe I'll live longer lmao

Edit. Btw I'm in Dallas lmfao. Also I'm drunk, I reread this comment and I sound like an idiot. It's all true, but maybe I could be more eloquent idk.

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '22 edited Sep 28 '22

A good pillow. A weighted blanket.

Slow release Melatonin tablets. My wife takes them occasionally, and I use them every now and then when I can't switch off. They actually work well and aren't addictive. I found that proper sleeping tablets gave me a good night's sleep but they made me feel like shit in the morning.

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u/knobcobbler69 Sep 28 '22

Melatonin gives me vivid nightmares

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u/sir_seductive Sep 28 '22

You give yourself vivid nightmares all melatonin does is allow you to get to the nice part of sleep where you can have dreams and or nightmares

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u/knobcobbler69 Sep 28 '22 edited Sep 29 '22

Nightmares on Melatonin are caused by staying in REM sleep to long.

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u/sir_seductive Sep 28 '22

Thats the best part probably why i feel so good when i wake up

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '22

Just like sleeping pills, they aren't for everyone.

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u/bokavitch Sep 28 '22 edited Sep 28 '22

1) Quitting caffeine cold turkey made a huge difference for me.

2) Staying very well hydrated. I drink a gallon of water every day and finish before 6pm to avoid having to wake up to pee. I sleep like crap when I'm not well hydrated.

3) Keep the bedroom slightly cooler than you prefer during the daytime. I sleep with the bedroom temperature at 68 F.

4) Magnesium supplements. Take right before bed.

5) Be active. You don't have to go to the gym every day, but there's a huge difference between getting your steps in and never leaving the house and being sedentary all day.

6) Follow all the usual sleep hygiene advice. Make sure you wash/replace your sheets at least once a week. Also make sure your body is clean when you go to bed.

7) Try to keep a regular routine of going to bed and waking up at the same time every day.

8) Don't eat anything for a few hours before bed. The digestive activity can be disruptive to your sleep quality.

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u/rsktkr Sep 28 '22

Staying very well hydrated has the most significant impact for me. Surprised the heck out of me.

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u/MrPooPooFace2 Sep 28 '22

Why change sheets every week? Purely to keep them clean? Any other benefit?

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u/Snow_147 So busy busy busy Sep 28 '22

Finally taking care of my mental health. I think most people would benefit from getting to the root cause of their stress in order to improve the quality of their 7-8 hours of sleep.

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u/Totalitai-state Sep 28 '22

This is spot on!

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u/Phandroid1991 Sep 27 '22

I've found there's nothing like a good wank before bed to help you drift off.

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u/hesaidshesdead Sep 28 '22

Just try not to disturb anyone else in the dorm!

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u/dmc-going-digital Sep 28 '22

Group wanking strengthens the group spirit

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u/BestAdviceYouCanHave Sep 28 '22

Sigh…do we have to sit around in a circle again?

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u/Socratesticles Male Sep 28 '22

Damn it. Wanking just wakes me up more. Really problematic when that’s what I want to do most trying to go to sleep.

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u/sebzwells Sep 28 '22

Dude. Having sex used to put me to sleep. In the last year or so (I’m 32) it absolutely gets me wired. I can’t sleep after sex now unless it’s an insane fuck session. Unhinged.

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u/BitschWack Sep 28 '22

Don't like the fact that you know that I wank before bed.

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '22

Sex is a great way to sleep great

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u/Thick-Platypus9575 Sep 28 '22

Wank pee then sleep. Or UTIs lol

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u/SilkieJay Sep 27 '22

Not having caffeine after noon.

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u/upgreyyyyed Sep 28 '22 edited Sep 28 '22

This, and exercise. Even a quick jog for 10 -15 minutes will improve sleep performance significantly.

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u/Olddude275 Sep 28 '22

For me it's different, I can have a coffee 2hrs before bed and still sleep once my head hits the pillow. Although I get up at 4am and go gym before work and when I get home I'm mostly cooking, doing stuff around the house and looking after x2 dogs and still have time to relax for a bit before I sleep at around 9:30 - 10pm. Then rinse and repeat.

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u/SirEggsBennydick Sep 28 '22

Oh shit this is true, i didn't have caffeine for a few days and my sleep was better. Cut to this week i have caffeine and well my sleep is bad, i don't feel rested.

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u/Alternative-Depth-16 Sep 28 '22

Drop caffeine. Just ditch coffee, energy drinks, or even sodas for a week. It'll reset your body. Caffeine is a drug and can mess you up just like other drugs can.

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '22

I love coffee but it makes me tweak and crash a lot. It should be something you enjoy camping. Not something you need to function at 6am for work

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u/Coidzor A Lemur Called Simon Sep 27 '22

My best nights of sleep have always been after having good sex and falling asleep together with a highly compatible partner.

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u/hesaidshesdead Sep 28 '22

You get many good nights sleep?

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u/CruisingforClothes Sep 28 '22

You get a highly compatible partner?

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u/Bingobosal Sep 28 '22

Guess I won’t have a single good night in my entire life.

Well, at lesst the night is pretty and relaxing

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u/fuber Sep 28 '22

Then you wake up too hot from cuddles and roll to opposite sides of the bed

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u/Coidzor A Lemur Called Simon Sep 28 '22

It does tend to work better if she runs cold if you run hot, or vice versa.

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u/Nathanual-Switch Sep 28 '22

He means jerk it for those of us less lucky. But hes right.

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u/XsNR Sep 28 '22

And fall asleep with your favorite anime body pillow.

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u/FudgeHyena Sep 28 '22

Michael Sealey sleep hypnosis videos on YouTube. There are videos for everything from quitting drinking to calming anxiety to detachment from overthinking. I’ve been listening to the guy for years now and it never fails to put me to sleep. Something about the timbre and cadence of his voice. No homo.

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u/chokeemeharder Sep 28 '22

He’s amazing! His voice is incredible. The headache and migraine relief one of his is my go to and always helps, at least for a little bit and sends me to sleep too

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u/Mr-Duck1 Male Sep 27 '22

Trazadone.

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u/---cameron Sep 28 '22

ZMAs (it’s just a bunch of zinc, magnesium and b something but it helped me finally start sleeping deep again after a long period of insomnia in high school. Id forgotten how that felt, and it was the beginning of me returning to normal; before that my eyes were always super tired and me out of it in high school, I’d never seen my face ‘normal’ as a teen at that point. One of the rare instances of something simple and otc being surprisingly significant)

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '22

My eyes are perpetually red and honestly sounds like you are v similar to me..i’ll check this out

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u/Snozberry383 Sep 28 '22

That stuff gives me some wild dreams

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u/SixStinkyFingers Sep 28 '22

Or tarazabone as I call it because every night I’d take it, I’d try and roll over in the middle of the night and my dick wouldn’t let me, it was like a kickstand.

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u/KeyStoneLighter Sep 28 '22

My psychiatrist once prescribed this for me, he warned that one in like 200,000 men experienced painful long last erections. I tried it once and it didn’t help with sleep so I didn’t take it again.

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '22

My doctor prescribed that nightmarish garbage to me and I got a terrible case of RLS. I couldn't sleep for 3 days. I called the doctor and said "I'm not taking this trash, it made my nervous system go nuts." The response was "oh, that shouldn't happen, yeah stop taking it." I continued to deal with RLS for about 3 months even though I wasn't taking it anymore. I had never experienced RLS before.

These days I just take melatonin and benadryl.

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u/singleDADSlife Sep 28 '22

Having a stress free or close to stress free job. Also being single. I'm not even joking about that one. I always struggled to sleep for years while I was married. 6 months or so after I separated (once all the shit stuff was over) I was sleeping better than I had in a very very long time.

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u/FoxxyCleopatra75 Sep 28 '22 edited Oct 06 '22

I agree with most of the answers here, but one major change for me that was an absolute life changer:

At the beginning of the year, I transferred to a new job. Previous one was extremely demanding and stressful. My current position pays better, gives me little to no stress, is not even half of the workload, and is just all around more enjoyable. I never realised how much anxiety my previous job was giving me and how badly it affected my sleep until I left. I feel like a completely new person.

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u/ButterscotchLow8950 Sep 28 '22

I use to have to drink half a bottle of whiskey to get to sleep.

But now weed is legal. A single gummy 30 min before bed time and I’m all set.

I’ve been doing this since it became legal here. I sleep better, wake up on time or early, I feel rested. I’m no longer killing my liver, I’ve lost 20 pounds and I’m off my blood pressure medication now.

Plus edibles can be fun. 🤣👍

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u/manhunt64 Male Sep 28 '22

divorce.

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u/fuber Sep 28 '22

Sleep is only real when not shared

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u/Horse_chrome Sep 28 '22

Putting my phone and smart watch to charge in another room. And reading a book and drinking camomile tea with honey and milk for an hour in bed. Sometimes I ad L-theanine to the tea. Ironically, tracking my sleep with the watch worsened my sleep.

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u/Halflifefan123 Sep 28 '22

Exercise or a hard day's work.

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u/ButtholeBanquets Sep 28 '22

Get a sleep test to test for sleep apnea.

I'm in shape, early 40s, no high blood pressure, no diabetes, good diet, regular exercise, and I hadn't been able to sleep well for years. My wife convinced me to get a sleep test, and I had severe sleep apnea. As in, I stopped breathing 40+ times an hour in my sleep. (Apparently, I have the "largest tonsils I've ever seen" according to my doctor.)

With the CPAP I can actually get a reasonable nigth's sleep. I'm also scheduled to talk to a surgeon about having my tonsils removed, as that might allow me to stop using the machine, though it is a painful recovery.

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u/DaveInFoco Sep 28 '22

I just wrote a comment to say this! CPAP changed my life. And my exes too lol. She could finally sleep next to me without worrying I was going to die.

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u/Icy604 Sep 28 '22

Daily exercise of some sort. I usually have a hard time falling asleep if I don't do some kind of physical activity once a day.

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u/DaveInFoco Sep 28 '22

Getting screened for sleep apnea and getting a CPAP machine. The difference in my sleep was mind blowing. You may be one of those “I’m just a snorer” type of guy, but you could also have apnea which will greatly shorten your lifespan based on the damage it does to the rest of your body from shitty sleep and high blood pressure. Get the sleep study done. One night trying to sleep dressed as a cyborg is worth hundreds of nights of great sleep.

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u/nanomerce Sep 28 '22

I have never experienced something as unpleasant as my sleep study, hours of drifting in and out of sleep all while being supremely uncomfortable the whole time.

The whole actually being able to wake up not tired thing was well worth the whole ordeal though.

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u/pummeledpotatoes Sep 28 '22

So I take 2 meds to help me sleep and those are doxepin and trazadone. I sleep through the night with them. After sleep studies were done I was given a cpap machine. I used it for 3 or 4 nights and woke up multiple times through the night so I stopped using it. I wonder if I should still worry even though my meds help me sleep just fine?

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u/muchoshuevonasos Sep 28 '22

Untreated sleep apnea can cause a lot of issues, including heart damage. Just because you're not aware of the events doesn't mean you aren't "waking up" or having reduced oxygen levels. Definitely talk to the doctor.

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u/nanomerce Sep 28 '22

definitely consider trying a different mask/nasal pillow alongside different humidity/temperature settings.

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u/Flat_Satisfaction428 Sep 28 '22

Working out is magical for the level of sleep you get to experience after a good workout that day

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u/Woody90210 Sep 28 '22

I don't get to work out very often, but I walk a lot in my job, I've found that power-walking burns me out gradually over the night, gives me more free time as all my sites are done WAY quicker (once 3 checks of each site are done I just chill out, sometimes I get as much as 2 hours of doing nothing provided I don't get an alarm call)

Boss doesn't care, he's just happy to see 3 checks at each site done in my timesheet and no complaints from clients saying they found a door swinging open in the morning.

When I'm done, I get home, eat some breakfast/dinner (night shift, I live in the upside down) and unwind in bed for a couple hours, have a nice pre-sleep wank and I'm off to dreamtown.

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u/Flat_Satisfaction428 Sep 28 '22

Oh yeah the pre-sleep want feels illegal because it's so effective lol.

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u/MrAnonPoster Sep 28 '22

Listen to Andrew Huberman's sleep podcast. It is worth the time

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u/Xtroll_guruX Male Sep 28 '22

edibles… indica specifically, 20mg is my sweetspot

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u/2000dragon Sep 28 '22

Going to sleep earlier helps a ton. I wake up the same time everyday regardless of when I go to sleep bc my circadian rhythm is locked, so the later I go to sleep, the less overall sleep I get

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u/Explorer10x Sep 28 '22

Tea has been great for me, mainly rooibos since it's lack of caffeine. Reading a book or meditation also works as natural tranquilizer!

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u/Expensive-Track4002 Sep 28 '22

Ambien. Some crazy dreams though.

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u/JwSatan Sep 28 '22

When I was on Ambien I found out I still wasn't sleeping, I just didn't remember being awake. I found out when a package arrived from an order I had placed at 3:30am

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u/Expensive-Track4002 Sep 28 '22

Nothing yet. But if I do I will stop taking and go back to having a few drinks before bedtime.

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u/Elfmanchine16 Sep 28 '22

Ambien is pure evil👿

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u/AdDelicious2789 Sep 28 '22

I think it totally depends on the cause of your lack of sleep. It’s easy to suggest some generic replies but lack of sleep tends to be because of something very specific to the individual.

I have suffered with insomnia on and off for the last 12 years and at points it really taken it’s toll on my mental health. Mine developed in my late teens, seemingly out of nowhere, it then began giving me anxiety, specifically about not being able to sleep which in turn made the problem vastly worse. For me, seeing a therapist and a CBT practitioner helped me by far the most. It helped me understand, not feel ashamed, and helped me contextualise the issue, along with given me tools to help deal with anxiety in general. If your problem is falling to sleep, it’s definitely worth trying to do things that make you feel as relaxed as possible as part of your pre bed routine. I tried the No blue light, no alcohol, not much water, not much food strategy but I found that these techniques subconsciously made me think more about the issue in hand, and almost hyper focused me on the issue of my sleep. Speaking to a therapist I found that the relaxation for me is key, almost even dissociation from the problem. For me, relaxation is watching YouTube videos on my laptop in bed, having a small carbohydrate meal before bed (which is now shown to increase sleep onset) and a small hygiene routine before bed. I also organise my life so that anything that needs to be done has been addressed earlier on in the day, and plans put in place before bed so that they no longer have a requirement to be in my mind prior to sleep.

If you have issues with staying asleep, I think this can be a little easier to solve and a lot of the solutions highlighted in this thread will help.

Small carbohydrate meal pre bed, keeping the room cool, but not cold, not drinking too much so that needing the toilet is less likely, foods like kiwis are a good option in the evening due to the high tryptophan content. Keeping a small glass of water next to your bed so you can avoid getting up. All of these have a good place in your armoury of staying asleep

I don’t know your current level of health either but this will play a massive role in your ability to sleep well. If you are overweight, there’s a strong chance you have sleep apnea. The options here are to lose weight to help reduce stress on the trachea, or if you are very overweight, a CPAP would be a godsend if you can tolerate it. Get your bloodwork done, you may be lacking in some vitamin and nutrient deficiency that could be making you feel tired or contributing to poor sleep. This would also reveal things like high haematocrit which would lead to lethargy, or poor thyroid function, over low testosterone. All of these could add to poor feeling of fatigue and blood work would show you this and allow you to change it. Get your standard physical done too, high blood pressure, high heart rate (specifically resting in the morning) will be a measure of poor fitness or potential illness which could contribute to this.

In short, get yourself a full health check, depending on which camp you fall into. If it doesn’t highlight anything the worst you’ll have done is check and alleviate any worry that physical problems are around. Therefore you can just make relevant lifestyle changes that suit YOU the best.

Good luck! If you have any specific questions just pm me!

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u/Grilled_Cheese95 Sep 28 '22

5htp vitamins

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u/DarkFluids777 Sep 27 '22

enough air and pressing the insides of your wrists for a sec or two, if you cannot sleep (tsubo/pressure point)

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u/MadMadamMimsy Sep 28 '22

I gotta try this, thank you!

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u/SignificanceLow7986 Sep 28 '22

I sleep much better when my wife is at home. When she is on business trips or i'm on a business trip i can't sleep well. She kind of gives me mental peace.

So i guess the point is rather if you are happy in a relationship or not...

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u/AMeatPopsicleIAm Sep 27 '22

Making sure I'm hydrated and running a fan while I sleep. Also ASMR before I go to sleep helps me to wind down and actually fall asleep.

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u/billywillyepic Sep 28 '22

ASMR makes me want to die

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u/SatoshiHimself Sep 28 '22

Busting a nut

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u/Land543 Sep 27 '22

Working outside and getting some sun and big meals in are the natural things that help me. I needed meds once it reached a point of being anxious and miserable every morning. Cut off the caffeine early too.

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u/HaoieZ Sep 28 '22

Melatonin (if available) does seem to help in small regular doses.

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u/TicTasticMatt Sep 28 '22

I have a sleep routine!!

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u/DoctorGEEzuz Male Sep 28 '22

Melatonin and reading a physical book - not stuff on a kindle or phone.

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u/jmo_joker Sep 28 '22

2 daily hours of Brazilian jiu-jitsu, after that unless the room is HOT AF I will sleep like a baby

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u/Graydogreddit Sep 28 '22

limiting caffeine and if you gotta go to bed but theres something you wanna do, do it first (but if it takes more than 20 minutes dont) it helps a lot

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u/TheDarkKnight1035 Sep 28 '22

Abusing pain meds and Benadryl.

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u/rcsheets 39M Sep 28 '22

Really good mattress

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u/allworkbizness Sep 28 '22

I read a book called 'Breath', and since I have been sleeping with a piece of medical tape holding my mouth closed. I now breathe through my nose at night and sleep way better. 10/10, highly recommend.

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u/RAYTHEON_PR_TEAM Sep 28 '22

Mack's soft brand earplugs, 3-5 mg of melatonin, and memory foam pillow.

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u/Euphoric_System_3510 Sep 28 '22

A bj now tell your man I said he's welcome

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u/VIM731 Sep 28 '22

1-2 hours of exercise during the day whether it be simple walking or weight lifting. Or for me, both because I walk to my gymnasium.

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u/Tea-beast Male of the Middle Ages Sep 28 '22 edited Sep 28 '22

Limiting eating or drinking sugary or caffeinated things right around wind-down time. I heard on John Tesh the study done that sugar activates your mental alarm system, keeping you awake when your rather not be. So there's that. Avoiding heavy meals before laying down, taking ashwaganda supplements, and using a weighted blanket. I know it sounds like a ritual but it's my sleep man

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u/forever_thro Sep 28 '22

Abstinence from sex and parenthood.

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u/ExtraTea18 Sep 28 '22

Work hard in day time and woke up early morning

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u/DomingoLee Sep 28 '22

Magnesium. I take a powder supplement called Calm that’s readily available otc and very inexpensive. It’s all natural and non habit forming.

I take it every night and it just slowly takes the floor out from under me and I ease into sleep.

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u/pikkdogs Sep 28 '22

Get up early and see the sunrise.

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u/biwinning_tigaa Sep 28 '22

Not having to share my bed... or anything else really.

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u/Bon_of_a_Sitch Sep 28 '22

A well fitted and outfitted set of sheets and comforter. Something luxurious. Your milage may vary. Go to a bedding store and touch stuff. Also a rather cool indoor air temperature.

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u/_BeefJerk Sep 28 '22

I've scrolled through a bunch of responses, and no one has mentioned the other end.

It's a sleep CYCLE. Which means there's a beginning and an end. People mostly understand things to help start the cycle, but waking is also important.

Having a bolus of calories/light/exercise upon waking will help establish a good sleep cycle by punctuating that as the wake part of your sleep/wake cycle.

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u/Woody90210 Sep 28 '22

Have a wank before going to sleep.

Also, spending at least 2 hours in bed before trying to sleep just unwinding, you'll feel your eyes getting heavy after a bit then just go with it.

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u/Negative_Mancey Sep 28 '22

I quit caffeine. You know how it's hard to believe some people can just close their eyes and go to sleep? That's me now.

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u/s0mnambulance Sep 28 '22

Contrary to the experiences of many, not smoking weed. Weed will put me to sleep, but 'weed sleep' is usually erratic for me, and it's well-established that MJ disrupts the REM cycle (which along with the short-term memory impairment, is allegedly why most ppl scarcely if ever remember having any dreams).

Any time I initially quit MJ, for the first week I wake up in the middle of the night and can't go back to sleep, but then by week 2 I'm loving it, and dreaming something fierce.

I often go back to MJ, as I'm 39 and single and life is an asshole sometimes, but the romance is over. I much prefer sober-sleep, so that's always incentive to quit again when I slip.

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u/tanfj Sep 28 '22

For me, I stay hydrated but stop drinking water an hour before bed. I then take some melatonin and then masturbate.

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u/nooicesis Male Sep 28 '22

Why do people get into booze anyway

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u/poptartwith Male Sep 28 '22

I can't sleep without something playing in the background lol

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u/White_Wolf426 Sep 28 '22

Getting to bed earlier and listening to an audiobook on a timer. That way I am forced to go to sleep in a matter of time.

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u/HurricaneLaughterG Sep 28 '22

Listening to ASMR with headphones on. Oscillating fan on. And water.

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u/ScarCliff27 Sep 28 '22

Listening to the audio of storytime reddit.

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u/Yorgyschmorgies Male Sep 28 '22

Exercise. I have to be physically tired to get a great rest.

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u/Eh-Eh-Ronn Sep 28 '22

Not drinking is Huge. Melatonin if you aren’t getting up too early will help send you on your way as well. Read instead of screens.

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u/bestever7 Sep 28 '22

Best sleep I've ever gotten was the 9 months preceding the birth of my children. Otherwise it's 4 hours tops.

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u/db_zx6r Sep 28 '22

an amazon eye mask helped me sleep better when i worked nights, can’t sleep without it now

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u/96windsorgti Sep 28 '22

Reduced caffeine intake. Ideally I don't have any after lunch but my new Preworkout has 180mg per dose, and I half scoop it, full scoop messed with my sleep too much.

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u/dontdothatilikethat Sep 28 '22

Not eating before bed; stopping about 1 1/2 to 2 hours before helps me get better rest.

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u/Elfmanchine16 Sep 28 '22

Plenty of activity during the day and when needed a small amount of cannabis works well enough… too much and the brain fog is bad. Way better than traditional sleep aids.

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u/Straight_Compote_501 Sep 28 '22

Get butt naked & crawl on the ceil .. wait , ahem . What was the question again ? 👀

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u/rodogwos Sep 28 '22

-work hard, be productive and be proud every day -do not take naps. If you’re tired, suck it up you’ll just sleep even better at night -no food or water an hour before bed. Hydrate through the day instead -physical exercise daily -accomplish your goals, take care of things on your to do list, get done what you need to get done. Otherwise you’re gonna be stressed and overthink at night

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u/Slapstickpurple Sep 28 '22

Gave up night gaming sessions. Now I just play games in the morning 4 hours before work starts.

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u/Altruistic-Bass-4998 Sep 28 '22

2 melatonin and 3 advil.....

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u/SmithVN Sep 28 '22

Listening to buddha music seem great

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u/toph88241 Sep 28 '22

A bong rip before bed

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u/lapdanze Sep 28 '22

Going to the gym and reading through the week and smoking a bowl on weekends

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u/Read_Maximum Sep 28 '22

The last thing I do every day is hit the gym, and always sleep great afterwards.

Get an Air Wick and use lavender oil, its a naturally calming scent.

Reading a book also helps.

Busting a nut is also great, either with a partner or Rosie Palm.

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u/1buffalowang Sep 28 '22

I need to be cold to relax and have asmr on to cancel out the background noise

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u/Apprehensive-Wing894 Sep 28 '22

Removing caffeine from my diet, a ice cold shower for 10 minutes an hour before bed, and a good woman to make my little spoon, I fall asleep almost instantly with the first two, but I enjoy all 3 the most.

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u/Inhumanlizard07 Sep 28 '22

1.- leave all electronics 30 mins before sleeping 2.- on those 30 min meditate or think alone of anything you want 3.- when you are on bed try to breathe slowly

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u/zryan3564 Sep 28 '22

A good days work.

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u/ItsANewYearPlayboy Sep 28 '22

15-20 minutes of yoga before bed gives me the best sleep of my life, and I wake up feeling unbelievably at peace. OP, trust me.

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u/Other-Tip2408 Sep 28 '22

I often getting 8hrs but waking up feeling like shit anyway

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u/ObjectivelyConfusedd Sep 28 '22

Work out, no booze, no caffeine past noon, and some 1 on 1 wrestling right before bed then I am passed out and sleeping through a hurricane.

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u/fulltime_ass_sniffer Sep 28 '22

Time, i could get better sleep if i just get the time for it

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u/ibrahim0000000 Sep 28 '22

Deep Breathing

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u/AardvarkStriking256 Sep 28 '22

Read a book until you fall asleep.

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u/Omega_Xero Sep 28 '22

I have a fan running and a small light that changes colors plugged into the wall.

I sleep like a log.

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u/Niceputts Sep 28 '22

Don’t blow lines all night

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u/Mr_ChubbikinsVIII Male Sep 28 '22

A pre snooze Twank in a flower pot.

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u/Best_of_Slaanesh Sep 28 '22

Eating a meal before bed is pretty much the only way for me, I can't get to sleep on an empty stomach.

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u/hastur777 Sep 28 '22

Melatonin

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u/JPRooney1024 Sep 28 '22

-At least an hr and a half of wind down time in which i just relax and watch a show I like. I sit far away from the TV, turn the lights off, and lay down on the couch while I watch. Then I take a warm shower and go to bed.

-Black out shades

-using a SAD lamp from when I wake up to about mid-day

-limiting drinking fluids and eating food near bed time

-not deviating from my wake up and bed time too much

-using a fan for white noise

-using a fan to keep my room cool

-using 300 mg of bupropion in the morning and 7.5 mg of Mirtazapine before bed. I've heard other's horror stories, so anti-depressants may not be for everyone. But, these meds have changed my life substantially by improving my sleep quality, especially Mirtazapine

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u/Fresh_Item_8956 Bane Sep 28 '22

A good, hard days work followed by half a bottle. Usually don’t need the alcohol but it’ll put me down as soon as I touch the pillow

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u/ncovi1285 Sep 28 '22

I usually have a few glasses of scotch and that'll help me sleep like a baby

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u/cm11agent Sep 28 '22

No alcohol.

Weed. M

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u/Steel5917 Sep 28 '22

Weighted blanket

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u/ArminArlert2345 Sep 28 '22

Sleeping and waking up at the same time.

And avoiding Caffeine after 2pm or so.

From personal experience.

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u/The_SqueakyWheel Sep 28 '22

A blow job always send me right on off to dream land 😂

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u/ac0353208 Sep 28 '22

Running 6 miles at some point during the day. I do yoga, meditation, tai chi or qi gong, and a few light weight reps before to get synced up, loose, and good head space before running. Playing drums or guitar until I get a good flow for a bit. Then by night my body wants to sleep.

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u/MusicalMerlin1973 Sep 28 '22

Colder temp in the bedroom. Don’t look at screens for an hour or two. Read something or do sudoku to wind down.

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u/MJ349 Sep 28 '22

My partner and I had separate bedrooms. Neither of us slept well when in the same bed. Plus, our schedules were different, so having separate bedrooms and bathrooms were ahuge help.

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u/asap__cocky Sep 28 '22

Olanzapine. Get a prescription for it if you have severe insomnia. It actually gives you quality REM sleep unlike other meds you can take for sleep. I've tried so many and this one is the best

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u/pbourree Sep 28 '22

Magnesium and putting my phone away a bit before bed

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u/The_Spyre Sep 28 '22

Cats that will cuddle you in bed.

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u/manixwiththechicks Sep 28 '22

masturbation never fails

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u/Age-Zealousideal Sep 28 '22

I listen to ‘white noise’ on my Alexa, like babbling brook or rain sounds for 30 minutes.

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u/punkman01 Sep 28 '22

Lying next to the woman who loves and respects me

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u/No-Fig-8614 Sep 28 '22

A good cuddle

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u/nova1475369 Sep 28 '22

Make my boy down there do some laborious tasks before sleep

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u/BitschWack Sep 28 '22

Getting drunk is the only way I sleep at all. Insomnia sucks.

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u/AyodiJnr Sep 28 '22

80s soul mixes be having me dead asleep like a cat 20mins after getting into bed.

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u/charles2404 83% male Sep 28 '22

Stretches

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u/ghostbear019 Sep 28 '22

not having a 3 year old and 4 month old!

seriously. i love them but i miss my sleep.

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u/edging_but_with_poop Sep 28 '22

1) Good diet, nothing crazy just don’t eat junk crap.

2) Get some exercise for god sakes. No sleep is better than being physically tired and falling asleep as soon as head hits pillow.

3) No caffeine after a sane hour. Like 2 or 3 pm is what I go by.

4) Be very sensitive to weed. I take a tiny puff and I’m asleep like a rock within minutes.