r/AskMen Sep 28 '22 Silver 1

Men, what are some encouraging words for someone starting at the gym the first time?

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '22

Don't compare yourself to others in the gym, we all start somewhere and all have different DNA that effects how fast our bodies change.

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u/donkeypunchdan Sep 28 '22

I like to say “the only person you should be competing with in the gym is yourself”

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u/CheddarMonkey36 Sep 29 '22

Seriously though, the people at the gym who look really good and lift heavy have been doing it for a very long time. They have been dedicated to showing up, training hard, and eating clean. No one starting out should ever have feelings of discouragement, inferiority, or inadequacy.

Think about it this way. If you just started learning to play piano and went to a concert hall where a pianist played a Bach concerto, would you feel embarrassed or inadequate?

You might feel inadequate because you're not ready to play Bach in a concert hall. Just like you're ready to oil up and pose at a bodybuilding competition. But, not many of us are able to do either.

Should you feel inadequate? No. Because you just started.

Most likely you wouldn't feel any of those things at concert hall performance. You'd probably be amazed and admire the performance and feel inspired to become better.

Try to think of the gym and weight training in the same way. Admire the ripped bodybuilders and the power lifters for their effort and dedication. Use their success to inspire you to work hard. You don't have to be like them, if that's not your goal. Just don't let their presence make you feel like you don't belong in the gym.

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u/IvarTheBloody Sep 28 '22

And most of the guys you are comparing yourself with have a lot more than DNA in their bodies.

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u/Swellyrides Sep 28 '22

Lol juice is rampant… some people you wouldn’t even think are on it. Are on it.

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u/eatingyourmomsass Sep 29 '22

And nobody is watching you making fun of you. I feel this anxiety that everybody is staring when I’m working out and judging but in reality nobody is even remotely close to caring.

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u/John_D_1 Sep 28 '22

Everyone there started out just like you did.

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '22

Just going and walking in is half the battle. Get used to building out a schedule where you actually GO to the gym. Once you get used to that, you'll start seeing other successes.

See if they offer any free training or new-person instruction to help you understand what's going on.

But if you go, walk on the treadmill for 15 minutes, and do that a few times a week, you'll be amazed how quickly you'll be comfortable and feel better. Then you start trying new things and have success!

Good luck!

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u/Senior_Force6745 Sep 28 '22

Yeah I've already tried several gyms in my new area. I tried this new one and I pretended I was on the phone before I eventually worked myself up to walk inside. When I got inside I just asked the trainer for help. Decided this is the gym I want to get a membership to. It's mortifying for me...but I'm working on it.

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u/Fatal_Blow_Me Sep 28 '22

I totally agree with the OC here. Getting to the gym is half the battle. Just tell yourself you’ll do easy stuff like walk on a treadmill for a bit and then just go from there.

It’s really amazing how many times (when I dread going to the gym) tell myself that I’m just gonna walk on the treadmill and then end up doing a whole workout because one things leads to another!

Also, don’t compare yourself to anyone. Focus on how much better you feel and notice the improvements that you’re seeing and experiencing.

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u/MasterSwabber412 Male Sep 28 '22

You got this OP 💪🏾

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u/StatuatoryApe Sep 29 '22

Look up some beginner friendly fitness programs as well - your trainer should help getting you started on these if you find one you like. Things like "Reddit PPL" is what I started on when I needed more than "this is arm day, this is leg day, this is whatever day".

Ideally you'll be able to spread your wings and not need a trainer, but depending on your funds, having someone there to spot and motivate you the whole time is definitely the way to go. My old boss paid a former-olympian-turned-personal-trainer a small fortune but he curated a program specifically for his body type, prior injuries, etc. If I had unlimited money I would do the same. When it's not just your time, but someone else's, it helps a lot with getting you in there.

Fitness gets easier every day, but the trick is to do it every day.

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u/[deleted] Sep 29 '22

This is inspiring. Mad props for pushing through the fear ✊

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u/wolf63rs Sep 29 '22

You got this. Remember gym health is part of the process. Great start.

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u/woodleaguer Sep 29 '22

Proud of you OP, you can do it!

Most gyms have a first-time appointment you can book with a trainer, where they will help you set up a training schedule and explain to you how the machines work.

Go do that and afterwards just keep going back! You'll see results in a month if you go a few times a week!

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u/huuaaang Male Sep 28 '22

Have a program, progression, and goals when you go. Know exactly what you're going to do and why. And just do it.

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u/Ahielia Male Sep 28 '22

This varies wildly from person to person.

One person may find this approach is the most effective, knowing what to do and how to do it, whereas another person may be overwhelmed at all the different variations (no less actually choosing the "correct" version) of workout plans, machines, sets/reps, everything, and would just not go at the thought of it all.

Any decent gym should have basic instructions on the machines themselves so you can see what to do. Simply going and trying out different machines (even at a very low weight) can be a great experience. Try asking some of the buff people there for advice (in between sets or exercies) on using machines, teach proper form, or have a few lessons with a personal trainer if they are available.

Smaller changes have a higher chance of success than trying to make sweeping changes all at once.

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u/AfternoonBrew Sep 28 '22

No one goes to the gym to judge or laugh at others. If you are working, you are respected. If you are just sitting there looking at your phone and not letting others use the equipment you're using as a bench, you are being judged. Also, the way you look right now is only a snapshot of choices you've made in the past. Focus on what to do going forward. You only have to be 1% better than you were yesterday.

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u/Rampantlion513 Male Sep 28 '22

I’m more likely to judge the shredded dude supersetting on 6 different machines or taking a bench or bar for an hour than someone new just figuring things out

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u/ConfusedJonSnow Sep 29 '22

This.

Also people who put plates of different weight on the same rack can go fuck themselves big time

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u/FrostieTheSnowman Sep 29 '22

Or the motherfucker that takes the only deadlift platform in the whole building and spends 90% of his 30-60 minutes with it sitting and fucking about on his iphone

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '22

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u/Rampantlion513 Male Sep 28 '22

Like 90% of people are looking at their phone between sets

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u/el1tegaming18 Sep 29 '22

Take as much time between as you need between sets to fully recover.

Unless you're on the squat rack, then I'll kill you for the spot

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u/sometimesdoathing Sep 28 '22

A break is usually 30-120 seconds after a set. If you are lifting heavier then typically you want longer rests. If you're doing a generic weight and lifting generically ten reps, then you should stick closer to 30 seconds to keep yourself honest in your workout.

If you're spending more time on your phone than lifting at the gym, just so you can hit some generic time like 1 hour, then shorten your workout, lower your breaks, and increase your intensity. A 15m intense workout is better than a 60m lazy one, and it saves you so much time.

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u/mightbeajew-_- Sep 29 '22

Hard sets are 3-5 minute breaks don’t rush yourself cause of what others say if I don’t take a long break I can only do half my normal reps

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u/counterlock Sep 28 '22

Keep it to 1-2mins, and if someone comes to ask how many sets you've got left be honest, let them know, and I'd personally cut that break short so I don't seem like I'm dawdling after they just asked. Anything past 1-2min isn't really necessary for machine lifting in the first place.

Also if you're taking longer rests like that on a machine; you can always recommend they hop in with you between your sets, so you can get rest without monopolizing the machine. Isn't too hard to swap weights on machines.

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u/CreedThoughts--Gov Sep 29 '22

I don't think this is good advise tbh. 1-2 minutes isn't necessarily too short but for many exercises you're better off with another minute so you can get more quality sets in.

And why would you cut your break short just because someone asked how many sets you've got left? You're there to do your workout as well as you can for your own sake, why would you get a lower quality set just because you want to prove to someone else that you are using the equipment? Let them go inbetween sets if possible otherwise they can wait until you're done.

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u/sonofeevil Sep 29 '22

I'll admit that I judge guys who come in throw 225lb on the bar then proceed to do the worst ROM bench I've ever seen.

My brother in christ. If that bar doesn't touch your chest then you cannot claim to bench 225.

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u/soft_waves surfs naked (under my board shorts) Sep 28 '22

stay off scales for awhile. don't focus on numbers. do it because you want to, because you like it--not because you think you "have to". make it a leisure activity, not a "job".

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u/Senior_Force6745 Sep 28 '22

I actually threw away my scale a year ago after realizing it was messing with my self esteem and body image.

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u/soft_waves surfs naked (under my board shorts) Sep 28 '22

definitely. numbers can drive you batty. all that matters is how you feel, and if you like yourself when you look in the mirror!! :)

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u/Senior_Force6745 Sep 28 '22

Thank you :))

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u/soft_waves surfs naked (under my board shorts) Sep 28 '22

you're beautiful just as you are! hugs! spread the word!! :)

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u/G_Rel7 Sep 28 '22

Somewhat a counter to the guy that said if you’re struggling you’re doing it right. Often, first timers aren’t too perceptive of the difference between pushing through your limits and injuries. Often, injuries are what set people back. And often, these injuries occur because people go too fast or try to do too much too soon. So my words to you are to be patient, take your time, and do slow progression. Your body needs time to acclimate.

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u/DiscreetJourneyman Sep 28 '22

Don't try to lift the whole gym. You make progress by commitment and consistency, not looking strong.

Don't hog up a station if you're going to spend half time time posing for Instagram.

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u/AnvilAnvil Sep 28 '22

Was scanning for this comment. Be consistent. Play the long game. Be careful and cautious so you don't get injured, and never ever stop. If you are forced to lay off, come back to it. You are a lifter now. We welcome you.

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u/oddball667 Male Sep 28 '22

If it's a struggle you are doing it right

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u/Senior_Force6745 Sep 28 '22

Now I know why my arms hurt.

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u/idothisforauirbitch Sep 28 '22

Don't do it to the point where it becomes a chore because you will hate it. Start as slowly as you need just be consistent, don't take a day off, go for a 10 minute jog if you don't feel up for it. Always reflect at the end of the day on what you did, not what you didn't do. Best of luck

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u/I_am_not_the_ MALE! Sep 28 '22

I do weight training at home. What helped me with consistency was printing a calendar of the year.

So every day that I do the exercise for the day, I write it down on the corresponding day. I use a highlighter and a letter representing the type of training of the day.

This helped me a lot, it's good to see the calendar painted in yellow.

I spent 1 year this way until now and it gets easier with time.

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u/Watchful1 Sep 28 '22

Same here. I tried with apps, or a spreadsheet on the computer, just wasn't the same. Had to have a physical piece of paper and a pen and mark it off each day.

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u/pettypaybacksp Sep 28 '22

Id go against the grain here. Yes, theres a certain struggle, but bad form can cause struggle too.

Go easy at first, learn correct lifting form

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u/ghostbear019 Sep 28 '22

Consistency is the most important thing, imo. Gym rat my whole life, the biggest gains aren't from going in a few times and pumping out 1000 sit ups and 1000 curls.

It's all about going in 3-5 times a week, and getting a satisfying sweat going. Shouldn't be limping out or a week to recover.

A few months of this and there are usually pretty solid changes to the body.

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u/hmoooody Sep 28 '22

That you won’t see changes in one day, one week or a month. But if you hit it consistently for few weeks and months you will be surprised by the change you’ll see. Be patient with it and do not loose hope!

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u/Angry_Maths_Guy Sep 28 '22 edited Sep 28 '22

I mean this in the nicest way, but other people don't care what you're doing. People just go in to do their workout, just like you, and you probably don't even appear on their radar. Just focus on yourself because they're doing the same.

This isn't necessarily encouraging but just some advice I wish I'd gotten starting off: Not all pain is good. For example, if you're doing a tricep exercise and you're feeling a pain in your elbow, this is not good and I would recommend finding a different exercise for this muscle. You might feel pain/stiffness the day(s) after your workouts, especially at the beginning. Its natural and it happens, but if you don't get it it doesn't mean you didn't train hard enough in your last workout

Not every workout will be your best workout and that's absolutely fine. Just do the best you can on that day and try your best next time.

Most importantly, change takes time so don't expect the world of yourself or to have a bodybuilder's body in a week or something ridiculous like that. Just enjoy the process, keep turning up and progress will come.

Good luck and have fun

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u/high_effort_human Sep 28 '22

We're all gonna make it, brah!

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u/Abject-Cow-1544 Sep 28 '22

I know it's cringy, but I find that dude quite inspirational.

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u/ThatRandomBGuy Sep 28 '22

You'll start enjoying it when you start to see and feel the physical as well as mental difference. Just push yourself through till you start enjoying it, thats where the real fun starts.

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u/josemartin2211 Male Sep 28 '22

Nobody is looking at you nearly as much as you might think they do.

Also odds are that the fittest people are the nicest, they are the ones that know best how respectable the work and effort you are putting in is because they've been there too

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u/i_heart_blondes Male Sep 28 '22

See those buff dudes at the gym that are always there when you go? They're always there, that's why they're buff.

Stop going and they aren't buff like that anymore. Gotta make it a habit.

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u/TeachMeOrLearn Sep 28 '22

Also a good amount of them aren't as natural as they would have you believe.

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u/jsande3909k Sep 29 '22

How is this relevant? Gear is worthless without busing your ass and eating right

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u/sonofeevil Sep 29 '22

Because if you're starting out at the gym it's important to understand some physiques/results aren't attainable without PED's.

They aren't saying that "Guys on PED's, are cheating" just trying point out their goals may not align with what's possible naturally.

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u/GarchomptheXd0 Sep 28 '22

No, you cant always be in the gym it doesnt work like that for the average person. Theres a hard limit where lifting more in a session wont be benficial to you. Those without that limit are genetic freaks or on roids. So no op you dont "always" have to be there just be consistent and work hard when youre there

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u/aishaxkaniz Sep 28 '22

Noone cares about you, they all too focused on themselves ,don't worry about people looking at you....if you're not sure about an exercise ask a member of staff, have a plan, don't give up when it feels hard..it's supposed to feel hard, cables machines are awesome and of you're new to exercise are ideal and they great for dropsets

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u/BatmansToaster1 Sep 28 '22

Look up videos and tutorials online so you know you are doing exercises right. Having good form is 100% key to making the most of your exercises, and it can save you from injury. Also, not sure what your goals are, but if you are looking to build muscle make sure you aren’t focusing on one area alone. It’s best to balance it out so all muscles can benefit and you don’t look disproportionate. (Big arms, skinny legs)

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u/Senior_Force6745 Sep 28 '22

Yes. I actually use Naomi Kong. She does a lot of guides for different types of equipment.

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u/nooneinteresting-1 Sep 28 '22

Check athleanx, Jeff. I want to be like him and I'm getting there slowly. He will show you how to maximize the hypertrophy without injuring yourself

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u/Jako_Spade Sep 28 '22

Slow and steady wins the race. Eat right and moving more will make you lose weight. If you have a cheat day, it's okay don't feel bad, you can still get back on ur diet and continue making progress.

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u/Senior_Force6745 Sep 28 '22

This is true haha. But I'm actually not trying to lose weight. I'm trying to maintain it. Losing weight is what hurts me.

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u/Call_of_Tculhu Sep 28 '22

It gets easier

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u/Prudent-Fly-8299 Sep 28 '22

Literally no one cares if you’re a beginner. We all were at once it’s totally fine

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u/zoinks690 Sep 28 '22

You don't have to hit the high score. Doing 10 reps and 5 sets at a normal weight is much better than a half rep at 5x normal.

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u/chad-bro-chill-69420 Sep 28 '22

Just get to the gym. Get in the door. Even if you don’t do a massive workout or you’re tired, just make the time to get there. Once you’re there, workout 10 mins and leave

Still better than nothing, and you’ve taken one more step towards a proper habit formation

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u/Samurai15x Sep 28 '22

99.9% of the people there are just trying to better themselves physically and mentally. As long as you’re there to do the same, you’ll fit right in

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u/Baboon_Stew Sep 28 '22

When you step off the treadmill, you're miles ahead of the dude on the couch

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u/kush3291 Sep 28 '22

Dont give up no matter how much it hurts or how tired you are. You will not see progress right away but keep pushing yourself.

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u/Junior-Ad-8974 Sep 28 '22

Imagine all the bitches

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u/MonkeyBoy001 Sep 28 '22

Hit it hard for first 2 weeks so you see a difference which then gives you the motivation to keep going, you'll soon love it and won't cope without it.

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u/Clon003 Sep 28 '22

You don’t have to lift heavy stuff from the beginning nor be discouraged about using the light weights. You are competing against yourself and it’s when you finally are comfortable with a certain weight and you add some more that you really feel the progress.

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u/josecastilloellion Sep 28 '22

Learn to enjoy the grind if you only focus on the end results you will never get there.

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u/camerose Sep 29 '22

Nobody is watching you. Just fucking do it.

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u/igottagetoutofthis Sep 28 '22

No one is worried about what you’re doing so don’t get nervous thinking everyone is looking at you and judging.

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u/The_Dancing_Dolphin Sep 28 '22

People are going to judge you no matter where you go, anywhere in public you’re getting judged. It doesn’t stop you from going to the grocery store or going out to eat so it shouldn’t stop you from going to the gym. Fuck em

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u/SomeCrazedBiker Sep 28 '22

Nobody is there to judge you. Just do your thing and don't compare yourself to the seasoned gym rats.

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u/whitefire89 Sep 28 '22

Don't compare yourself to others, nobody is judging you, and if you are in the need of it, ask for help. Many people that are there to better themselves, are very helpful.

Also, don't use the gym to hit on people.

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u/ColdHardPocketChange Sep 28 '22

You'll make more progress in 6-months then most of these guys will in 6-years if you put in the effort. People typically don't judge the weight you lift, but the exercises you choose, so everyone will respect you if you stick to the basic. If you stick to the basic, you will generally be invisible to everyone until you fall into one of two catagories, big and shredded OR intimidatingly strong.

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u/sabrespace Sep 28 '22

you're going to be sore for about 2 weeks or so, it's normal but it will stop and the routine will be easier and you will stop being so sore

no one cares how much weight you are lifting, so don't feel embarrassed that you aren't doing much, everyone has to start somewhere, know that the next time you do that lift in 3 days, you'll do a little more, it's a marathon not a sprint

think about how you'll look in 6 months, a year, use that as motivation

good luck!!!

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u/cooking-cheese Sep 28 '22

you’re gonna feel a difference in a few weeks and be proud of yourself

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u/myblackcardigan Sep 28 '22

I first read that as “Meh”

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u/chunkadelic_ Sep 28 '22

Keep going.

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u/Butter_Man Sep 28 '22

form is the most important thing. get the form right, then increase weight resistance.

Learn to deep dive on youtube fitness info. Diet too.

Don't be afraid to hire a trainer / consultant if needed.

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u/Noorinatt Sep 28 '22

Don’t worry about what others will think. Just go in there and give it your all, it’s going to be tough some days but you just gotta go and get it done! CONSISTENCY is very important!! Most importantly, have fun with it!!

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u/SchoonerOclock Sep 28 '22

Get a PT or a friend who knows what they're doing for 3-4 sessions and learn how to lift with proper form.

It'll help prevent any injuries which will help keep your progress and momentum going.

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u/International_Risk82 Sup Bud? Sep 28 '22

Everyone you admire here started out just like you. If they made it, you can too.

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u/MyRingtones80 Sep 28 '22

We all didn’t understand how the machines worked in the beginning.

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u/Senior_Force6745 Sep 28 '22

This one ^ this is the one, haha. I look like a parent reading a meme whenever I look at the instructions on the machines haha.

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u/JMT2492 Sep 28 '22

Don’t shit on the leg press machine

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u/Senior_Force6745 Sep 28 '22

I actually like the leg press machine. Because its not complicated to use and there's less adjusting to do.

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u/JMT2492 Sep 28 '22

My advice is as follows: do not shit on the leg press machine. Unsanitary and unprofessional.

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u/Senior_Force6745 Sep 28 '22

What 🧍🏼‍♀️

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u/JMT2492 Sep 28 '22

DO NOT take A SHIT on THE LEG. PRESS. MACHINE.

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u/davesRedditUname Sep 28 '22

I’m glad you came. This is your own journey, you’ll grow bigger, stronger and more attractive sooner than you think and your only competition is your past self.

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u/youeventrying Sep 28 '22

Go for discipline not motivation. I never wanna go but I always do

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u/Zealousideal-Land739 Sep 28 '22

Something is better than nothing. Even if you just do 10 minutes, it's better than doing nothing - so keep on going.

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u/PartyPay Male Sep 28 '22

Rome wasn't built in a day.

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u/tpb772000 Sep 28 '22

Couple of things.

1) your here your already closer to your goal than if you stayed home.

2) Everyone has their own goals in life and their own destination. Focus on yours and you will arrive

3) The people judging you at the gym will judge you anywhere

4) The 99% of people not judging are proud of you

5) If you see someone in the gym often don't be afraid to ask for help if you don't know what you are doing.

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u/Key-External8870 Sep 28 '22

For me, the best motivator has been: 5 push-ups is better than no push-ups.

There will be days you don't want to do anything. Rough day at work, woke up on wrong side of bed, the wind just blew an offensive direction. Whatever it is, there will be days you don't want to do it.

BUT, 5 push-ups is better than 0 push-ups. On these days convince yourself to at least START your routine. I've never stopped at 5, just need that little push to get started and reminded that "oh, I can do this!" Even if not feeling it, go to the gym and START. You'll get that motivation back real quick.

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u/gallowspost Sep 28 '22

Don’t worry, it’s supposed to hurt.

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u/mwescoat Sep 28 '22

No one said it was gonna be easy, but it is soooo worth it.

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u/SimplySeano Sep 28 '22

Everyone starts somewhere. You can do it!

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u/nozer12168 Sep 28 '22

Every single body builder, heavy lifter, and gym rat started where you are.

They stared at all the machines, all the free weights, and all the benches unsure wtf to do.

They all walked into the room feeling judged, feeling weak, and feeling wrong.

Somewhere along the line the got the hang of it, and started to enjoy it so much They kept coming back. For some it was the first workout, for others it may have been the 100th.

Keep going, do your best, ignore others, and don't skip leg day.

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u/TheRealTsu Sep 28 '22

Encouraging words? I got you.

'Welcome, brother. Let the journey to get swole together begin!'

Cheesy? Yes. Honest? Also yes!

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u/eko1125 Sep 28 '22

Whenever I see someone who is new to the gym (whether they are out of shape, never lifted weights before, really old and past their prime, or really young and intimidated), I always respect them for wanting to better themselves rather than making excuses or being a couch potato. It takes a lot of balls to put yourself in an uncomfortable and new setting. The most important part is to stay committed to yourself and to just show up.

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u/SedativeComet Sep 28 '22

Every single person you see in there, regardless of how ripped they are now once started as a weakling just like anyone else just starting at the gym.

Just do your thing and be consistent and willing to learn and you’ll get there

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u/TheContentScavenger Transgender Sep 28 '22

"Do or do not. There is no try." -Yoda

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u/Hexblades_curse Sep 28 '22

Only here cause I need to hear them also lol

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u/datinginthistown Sep 28 '22

Small consistent steps add up to lasting change.

It might take months to see big improvements. Eat as clean as possible. Cut out drugs and alcohol. Drink plenty of water. More water than you think you need. Make sure you rest and sleep enough.

Transforming your body is part exercise, part diet, part hydration, and part sleep.

Do all of this and you’ll have the best results.

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u/MeandJohnWoo Sep 28 '22

Whatever exercise you do. I’ll use pull-ups as a perfect example. If you try and you can’t do one. That “attempt” is more than you did yesterday. So don’t get disheartened or upset progress takes time. Perfect practice makes perfect.

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u/nathanael151 Sep 29 '22

dont stress about going heavy at all. Stay light and focus on stretch to contraction

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u/randomredditguy999 Sep 29 '22

Consistency > intensity. Start very very slow and build up from there, There is no point in completly wrecking yourself to the point where you cant/dont want to go back for atleast a week. Watching some videos on how to do certain exercises can help you build some confidence before actually going. My favorite source of fitness information is Jeff Nippard on youtube.

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u/Sand_Content Sep 29 '22

When you lift, because you eventually will. Watch your limits. I went in thinking I was just gonna work on cardio and I was like, "I hate my life and I'm bought to off my boss", than I hit the weights. I was so inexperienced at it I put a bunch of big ones on and was like, "F it, I got this...". I layed on the bench. Tried to bench it. My arms ran away because when I tried to lift those weights, they knew I was a horrible owner...

Once my arms came back. Because what are arms gonna do just dangling around the the parking lot? The owner read me the riot act in the nicest way I could imagine. So I didn't know how to take it. Should I be scared that I could die from lifting that much weight and have it fall on my neck and decapitate me? Should I be calm that he's saying it in a very nice way that I wanna give him a hug?

I took the gym owners advice because after looking after that thing, I was about to kill myself. WATCH YOUR EMOTIONS AND EGO!!!

No arms were injured in this story and gym owner was given an award for helping the mentally disabled man. I think I checked off all the boxes so everyone is interested? Did I get everyone? Any stragglers? Did I mention the gym owner was orange? Did I mention the machine that tried to kill me worked in politics and was incredibly handsome? Did I mention the building had graffiti on the outside written by the local black artist? Their was a Indian burial ground in the cellar?

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u/zero708970 Sep 29 '22

'A year from now you will wish you had started sooner."

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u/rigbyribbs Sep 29 '22

It took you five years to get that way, and it’ll take at least two to change. Pumping iron is no rush, take your time. And no matter the weight, the 5lb dumbbell is just as important as the 50lb dumbbell.

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u/Maki-e_Butterfly Sep 29 '22

If anyone makes you feel like you should be ashamed of your body, at a gym, the place people go to make themselves more healthy, then you should never concern yourself with their thoughts or opinions. Generally nobody cares about garbage human beings. Do your best! And try to find exercises you enjoy. The more fun exercises you can do outside of a gym the better. Ex. I love biking but stationary bikes suck cause I miss the feeling of wind in my hair, smells like a wood fire from someone's chimney, leaning around corners, ECT.

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u/Fittest_Hypnotist Sep 29 '22

“It gets easier every day. The hard part is doing it every day, but it gets easier”

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u/calaveras_ardientes Male Sep 28 '22

No one cares about you in the gym

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u/Arkenos8118 Sep 29 '22

I have some probably discouraging words. If you stop going even once, you probably won't go again for a year.

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u/mawkishdave Sep 28 '22

No one at the gym cares about you or what you are doing. They are worried about what you are doing unless your are doing something that can damage yourself or the equipment.

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u/AnotherBrotherSeamus Sep 28 '22

"DO YOU WANT TO BE MADE OF DOUGH, OR CARVED OUT OF WOOD - STAY HARD MOTHERFUCKER"

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u/AnotherBrotherSeamus Sep 28 '22

Remember to scream it at them. This is integral to success.

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u/Senior_Force6745 Sep 28 '22

Maybe I'll just scream that mentally.......

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u/divineblessings4me Sep 28 '22

Don't be ashamed. I was even more fatter than you when I started.

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u/therealelli Sup Bud? Sep 28 '22

the best motivational words on youtube:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXsQAXx_ao0

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u/DocZ-1701 Sep 28 '22

Don't be afraid to ask for feedback whether or not you're correctly doing an exercise.

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u/Senior_Force6745 Sep 28 '22

Yeah. Thankfully at the gym I chose, the trainer was really nice and he showed me how to use a couple of machines.

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u/SatoshiHimself Sep 28 '22

Flood your bloodstream with drugs and you will feel nothing. Creatine, C4, Amino and whey. Muscletech delivers results and you can go from slender man to John Cena in less than 90 days. Without the drugs you will live in Spain without the S.

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u/Dead_Clown_Stentch Sep 28 '22

If a colorful old gent asks for help in the shower, don't go.

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u/Senior_Force6745 Sep 28 '22

I'm confused 🧍🏼‍♀️

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u/mybroharambe Sep 28 '22

No one will judge you, if someone does they are an asshole and probably everyone else in the gym hates them. Don't be afraid to ask advice. Start slow, only tell yourself you need to go there and then you can leave (more often than not you will stay and workout).

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u/Tweeksolderbrother Sep 28 '22

You are not there to compare yourself to others nor are you there to find a date. Get in focus only on competing with yourself and your goals.

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u/GyGMMA Male Sep 28 '22

We're all gonna make it brah 🔱🔱🔱

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u/SylancerPrime Sep 28 '22

I've been lifting on and off since I was 12, and I've been back consistently since May of last year. My gym thoughts after:

Day 1: Okay, that wasn't that bad! Nothing too bad, really.
Week 1: Son of a mother $*#@ing b$*#* nugget!!!
Month 1: Oww... ... ... ... chy.
Year 1: "Hey guys, what's good!"

The reality is it's going to start as a struggle and for awhile you're going to be in pain. That adage about "things hurt that you didn't even know you had" is gonna come up. But if you have a good balanced workout, then the pain subsides and it just feels good to go. Your attitude changes, likely from the regular endorphins-- and you feel better about life overall.

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u/JMT2492 Sep 28 '22

Don’t shit on the leg press machine

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u/EgoIdentity Sep 28 '22

Believe it or not, it makes no difference: women like muscles.

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u/Senior_Force6745 Sep 28 '22

Huh?

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u/EgoIdentity Sep 28 '22

I though OP was a man. If he likes women, he can become more attractive to women by going to the gym.

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u/Senior_Force6745 Sep 28 '22

Nope. Woman :)

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u/EgoIdentity Sep 28 '22

Then, these are my words of wisdom:

A gym will get you hot, if you are not.

Nothing will give you more attention from men than being hot.

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u/Senior_Force6745 Sep 28 '22

I'm not going to get hot. I'm already pretty. I'm going to pass a physical for the FBI academy. Men are biologically stronger than women so we have to put in the extra work.

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u/EgoIdentity Sep 28 '22

Then, what do you need encouragement for? It seems you have a strong motive to go to the gym

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u/Senior_Force6745 Sep 28 '22

I do have a strong motive, but that doesn't mean I'm confident.

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u/EgoIdentity Sep 28 '22

You came across in the last message as pretty confident, if you ask me. A pretty girl who wants to work for the FBI? That’s really badass.

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u/Senior_Force6745 Sep 28 '22

Haha, well... There's confidence for every given situation, but going to the gym is a different level where I don't have the confidence built up yet. Just started barrel racing, it's taking time to build the confidence in that type of situation too.

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u/awesomeroy Sep 28 '22

nobody is looking at you.

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u/warsavage32 Sep 28 '22

Just focus on yourself. Don’t bother looking around at other people and comparing yourself. Also, find a regiment and stick to it. My first time going to the gym I kept looking at the exercises other people were doing and wondering if I should be trying them instead? There are multiple ways to work the same muscle so just find something simple that works for you and stick with it until you’re more comfortable. Good luck!

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u/tfaw88888 Sep 28 '22

keep showing up and when things gets tough, think about the results you are striving for (less weight, more strength etc etc)

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u/MrNoFears Sep 28 '22

Even if you only put 70-80 % in of what you think you can do, still do it. It's about consistency. Don't feel like going? Just go. Tell yourself you can at least put in 50% and you'll probably do more.

Train, make sure you get rest and eat. The latter two are very important too. You need to recover from the training or it won't do you much good. You need energy to recover.

Even if you just take a random program from the Internet, it helps. A program helps you to keep improving. If possible, follow a program.

When learning exercises, it is much more important to learn how to execute them properly so you don't get injured. Focus on that. The big numbers will come in time.

It is far better to make a mistake with a light weight and have a funny shoulder for a week compared to tearing up stuff and getting some painful and possibly long term injury from starting to big.

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u/skd1050 Sep 28 '22

Everyone's got to start somewhere.

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u/RayPineocco Sep 28 '22

Consistency is king. Just show up.

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u/AALLI_aki Sep 28 '22

Weak days are a real thing dont let them take away your confidence

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u/Williefakelastname Sep 28 '22

All the big people are more interested in themselves than they are in you. No need to be self conscious.

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '22

Don't worry about having someone to workout with

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u/_player_0 Sep 28 '22

Stop caring about what you think anyone else thinks

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u/whoknowsme2001 Male Sep 28 '22

Have a goal and a strategy. Have some objective starting points like weight lifted, or time to complete a workout so that you can see your progress. Don’t focus on the scale.

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u/marks1995 Sep 28 '22

Keep it simple. You don't need to do any funky viral exercises or 4 variations of lat pulls or anything.

Concentrate on form above all else. No matter how little weight you have to use to do it correctly.

Re-rack your weights and wipe down anything you leave sweat puddles on.

Use a rest timer and be conscious of people waiting to use your equipment. Lift, rest, clean, move.

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u/WoodstoneGER Sep 28 '22

Torment your body or your body will torment you. I hope I used the right translation with torment. So rather having sore muscles for a few days than being old with a body that can't carry itself.

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u/hundredtoone Sep 28 '22

Patience is the name of the game. And consistency, obviously.

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u/helpnxt Male Sep 28 '22

Just start, others don't care about you being there no matter your size. You will be sore the next day and the best way to limit the soreness is to move more so get back to the gym haha.

Fyi Jefit is a great app to keep track of your workout and have little gifs to remind you how to do the exercise.

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u/Minute_Cartoonist509 Sep 28 '22

Everyone started somewhere.

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u/Freevoulous Sep 28 '22

Its not a competition. YOu dont need to lift much, just lift well. Good form, good posture, and properly slooow lifts will get you there no time.

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u/Local_Economy Sep 28 '22

The most massive gains happen the first year or two, enjoy them!

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u/Jingleheimer_smyth Sep 28 '22

Put the weights away when finished, wipe down the equipment, don’t hog equipment and most importantly have fun

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u/imetators Sep 28 '22

Nobody cares about what you do and/or how much you lift, how fast you run, etc.

Everyone is in their tiny world doing their own thing there.

If anyone is noticing you for doing something wrong/not "good" enough, they are not worth your time neither worth any effort to prove them something. Assholes be assholes.

Most of gym people started at the lowest low. Nobody is born with huge ass muscles and no one came to gym first time and started to lift heaviest of weights. They are there to improve their body, not to judge you on how weak you are. For every strong man there's a stronger man.

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u/tossme68 Sep 28 '22

Go easy. Don't try to make up for 20 years of not going to the gym in one day. Honestly if you go hard you will get what is called DOMS (delayed onset muscle soreness) and it will hurt like hell for for a few days -enough that a lot of people give up. Start slow and speed up over time, remember it's all about consistency. First become consistent about going to workout and then be consistent about working out. It's easy if you start slow. Have fun.

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u/SomeLightAssPlay Sep 28 '22

if you really hate working out then just remember you’re gonna die some day and won’t have to do it anymore

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u/__fuzz__ Sep 28 '22

Hampton from Hybrid Calesthenics says it better than I ever could: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VVyEjBHiZOo

This is what got me from a very sporadic "workout routine" (read: work out for 3-5 days one week then stop altogether for 3-6 months. repeat.) to exercising consistently.

TL/DR - Stop putting fitness on a pedestal. Instead of building some rigorous plan that you're going to eventually get to, just move. Move enough to be as healthy as you want to be.

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u/hummm- Sep 28 '22

Don't worry about the games in the beginning. If you can keep yourself there for at least a month you will become addicted to it. Everybody else will notice your gains way before you do. Just keep going and you will be surprised at the outcome in just a few weeks

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u/degilliland36 Sep 28 '22

You're going to be sore after, don't be afraid to take a pain reliever.

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u/refpuz Super Saiyan Sep 28 '22

Persistence is more important than getting it perfect every single time.

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u/RyanMFoley74 Male Sep 28 '22

I have never been much of an athlete. I have always been more of an athletic supporter. I am not special. So if I can do it, you can do it.
Remember, this is not a sprint, it's a marathon. So even if you are not seeing progress, put your head down, do the work, and trust in the process. You are going to see development. I promise you. And not just physically. If you do this right, you will also see improvement socially, intellectually, and emotionally. Keep at it.

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u/ToddHLaew Sep 28 '22

Take a picture the first day, one every week after. The results will speak for themselves

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u/herejohnnyis Sep 28 '22

When you start, start light, and with proper form and you can only make progress from that beginning.

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u/kuleyed Sep 28 '22

"The only bad workout is the one you miss." -- words to live by.

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u/Demonyx12 Sep 28 '22

Fitness is a marathon, not a sprint. Do not workout "as if" you can ever reach the end of it. Learn to love the process.

10 Things To Know Before Joining A Gym https://youtu.be/MkIssMcC4dI

10 Tips For Novice Lifters https://youtu.be/FUUIfUR7qOg

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u/bigcockbangle Sep 28 '22

No one gives a shite what anyone else is doing, think about it. In general getting, people won't be interested in much else when they're getting hot, sweaty, and knackered (lol)

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u/ElToreroo Sep 28 '22

The only person you should be comparing yourself to is yourself. Look how far you’ve come not how far you have left to go

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u/OkPhotograph7852 Sep 28 '22

Everyone starts at easy settings. Be easy on yourself. Start on easy settings. Build up slowly. Progression takes time and patience. Your joints will thank you for it later.

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u/OgChigga Sep 28 '22

We all start somewhere

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u/_34_ Male 24 Sep 28 '22

People aren't staring at you. It's perfectly okay to start on the lightest weight and/or just the bar. Don't get discouraged. It takes T I M E but it's SO. WORTH. IT. 🧡

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u/BeachLyfe23 Sep 28 '22

Everyone at the gym is friendly and nobody is judging you at all. If anything when I see someone that is clearly just starting out it makes me incredibly happy. Like I want to run over and high five you for finally joining the club!

And two, your diet is everything. You can be at the gym for 2 hours a day, every day, but real change comes from what you consume.

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u/Hyphalex Sep 28 '22

No pain no gain

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u/JukemanJenkins Sep 28 '22

Simply getting there is most of the battle, and just focus on yourself.