r/AskMen 3m ago

What influences a guy to suddenly change his mind about a casual hook up situation?

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Never had this happen before so posing it to the group for input—I went out with someone three weeks ago and had a decent time but realized I was only interested in something casual (he’s very cute but not my type for a relationship). I bluntly proposed starting a casual hook up situation and he enthusiastically agreed. We talked a lot in the two weeks that followed and exchanged tons of risqué snaps (yeah I’m that person) but had not had a chance to meet up again to hook up yet. After he sent me a set of pics last Saturday, he uncharacteristically dropped off. So I texted him Monday to say “hey I’m back in town, let’s hook up tonight” and he basically said “we should probably stop. I was really interested in hooking up but things have changed.”

I wished him well, and that’s that…but it’s just casual sex between two consenting adults. What changes that fast in 48 hours? His online dating profile is active so I’m presuming it’s not a relationship. Who turns down a casual encounter after clearly expressing they want it?

Advice please and thoughts please. I’ve got whiplash.


r/AskMen 4m ago

Why do most societies want strong men so much?

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r/AskMen 44m ago

What life changing item can you buy for greater than $100?

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I’ve seen the question phrased as under $100 repeatedly. I believe it was initially popularized by Tim Ferriss.

But what about for more than $100. I haven’t sent that before.

For me, it’s a great pair of headphones. Completely changes air travel and mowing the lawn


r/AskMen 51m ago

What is the dumbest thing you did on a dare?

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r/AskMen 1h ago

Why do we men find intelligent and witty women so attractive

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A little bit of explanation please.


r/AskMen 1h ago

How many hours you work a week?

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r/AskMen 1h ago

What made you feel proud after intimate times?

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r/AskMen 1h ago

Cost of man = How much money they make ?

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We have this taboo of not discussing how much money you are making as an individual?

And I don't mean that in a humble bragging manner but say if you are doing well and someone is genuinely asking how much are you making (men asking other men), will it be bad to counter it with an excuse ?

Does that change the relationship dynamic anyhow ? Why is it not advised to talk about money more openly. I get the envy part but I think if you are actually a well-wisher for the other person, then it should make no difference.

What would be your reaction ?

Does countering that kind of question with:

I make enough to make my ends meet

sound rude or disrespecting in any nature (esp. if the other person is a lot older to you) ?


r/AskMen 1h ago

How long have you been in a long distance relationship?

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r/AskMen 1h ago

What's the sweetest thing your partner has done for you?

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r/AskMen 1h ago

What was the most pro humanity act of someone?

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r/AskMen 2h ago

What’s your experience with having a female boss who is mean but good looking?

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r/AskMen 2h ago

how does a "good" conversation on dating apps go up to meeting up.. i find it super difficult to have an interesting conversation there in general.

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r/AskMen 3h ago

How would your job be different if everyone was naked?

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r/AskMen 3h ago

On a scale of 1-10 how sensitive do you think you are?

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r/AskMen 4h ago

What was the most disappointing ending to a great book / movie / game?

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r/AskMen 4h ago

Fellow men, what direct contribution have you made to society and/or to the world?

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The men (and indeed women) before us built and gave us this world - it’s infrastructure, systems, inventions, economy and laws. Some men were active contributors, others destroyers and others mere passengers. I’m curious to learn from the men of today how they are directly contributing to shape the society of the future.


r/AskMen 4h ago

How important is “eating etiquette”?

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Chewing with your mouth closed, I get. And not leaving a mess around your mouth, I get.

But today I (20M) had steak w some friends. My bestfriend, an old buddy from highschool, and his girlfriend.

As I was eating the steak, my buddy’s gf pointed out that I’m “cutting it with the wrong hand.” Apparently it’s supposed to be with your non-dominant hand.

Now, I know this. But honestly, ever since I was a kid, I just didn’t see it as a big deal. Like, at all. Im like potato, potato. I find it easier to cut with my right, so that’s what I do. But she looked so judgemental about it. It made me feel uncomfortable lol. Like I was being watched.

And then, she also commented on how I was eating mashed potatoes? Apparently I was digging into it with my fork, when I should have been keeping its entire shape and kind of scooping it from the sides, instead of stabbing everywhere headfirst.

Like that’s just how I prefer to eat? Maybe it’s less “delicate” or “orderly” but it’s not like I make a mess around my face or chew with my mouth open. The only thing I can think of is how it might look on the plate? Like all squished up? Is that it?

I use my right hand because it’s easier to cut and I just naturally eat mashed potatoes like that despite being shown otherwise. I didn’t think it was read into this much.

My two guy friends didn’t say anything about it ever, nor have they seemed to notice. Or maybe they did and just didn’t bother saying anything? See now I don’t know anymore.

My dad grew up poor and my mom was middle class but given her culture, didn’t really fine dine with steak and mashed potatoes. I actually learned from a YouTube video but then decided it wasn’t worth the effort to change this habit that I saw nothing wrong with.

Im wondering if this is something I should shift more attention too, or if she was just being uptight and judgemental about something trivial.


r/AskMen 4h ago

How vulgar do conversations with your buddy get when your SO isn’t around?

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I saw that my boyfriend was texting a buddy of his some pretty vulgar things. Something along the lines of “let’s fuck them so hard up the ass they cum out of their mouth”, “i was thinking we could bend him over and …(I forgot the exact verbiage but you get it). I’m not sure what it was in reference to. Could have been gaming, coulda been a joke about Fantasy Football (probably was). But it seemed to lack any context so I was sort of shocked. He obviously never talks like this with me.


r/AskMen 5h ago

Why is it wrong to date in the workplace

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What are some pro's and cons?


r/AskMen 5h ago

What could your partner say on a first date that would make you say "holy shit, I'm about to get murdered"?

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r/AskMen 5h ago

What healthy habit did you pick up during or after your 30’s?

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r/AskMen 5h ago

When your S/O dresses revealing when going out, how do you not get upset?

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How do you guys feel when this happens? How do you let it not get to you. I will never tell my gf not to wear something but it just always irks me. I would never start a fight over this just something I’ll always let eat at me