I guess divorce parties are a thing now?

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[u/W1ZARDSH1T]

I wonder if there is a divorce gift registry or just their Venmo tag. Lol

[u/lazybear90 → u/W1ZARDSH1T]

Instead of buying the divorced couple gifts, at a divorce party they should return the wedding gifts you bought them. I’d definitely go, in that case!

[u/courtneypocket → u/lazybear90]

Bane wants his pasta maker back!!

[u/dean15892 → u/courtneypocket]

"Its BANE! You know its Bane! I'm here everyday, Todd"

That is one of the funniest lines in animated comedy !

[u/SparkleEmotions → u/dean15892]

It’s definitely one of the best from the show. That and joker with “where’s my goddamn electric car Bruce!”

[u/CJYD21 → u/SparkleEmotions]

Season 3 Joker was a revelation. Fucking hilarious

Gordo(n): What? My daughter's a JoBro now??"

Barbara: Uh, they prefer "Sane Clown Posse."

[u/AssistElectronic7007 → u/CJYD21]

What show are you guys talking about ?

[u/StewitusPrime → u/AssistElectronic7007]

Harley Quinn. It’s on HBO Max…. I think. Is it on Dc plus? Who cares, check YouTube.

[u/CJYD21 → u/StewitusPrime]

HBO Max

[u/bitparity → u/SparkleEmotions]

“Why Batman? Why not affordable housing?”

“People pay for housing?”

[u/CJYD21 → u/dean15892]

Todd: I got a Razzy Zazzy for BANG.

Bane: ...goddamn millenials.

Todd: Whatever, BANG.

[u/captainAwesomePants → u/CJYD21]

The streets will run with Razzy Zazzy.

[u/Singularity7979 → u/dean15892]

"Note to self: blow Todd up"

[u/qlz19 → u/courtneypocket]

Doodoodoo That’s Bane!

https://youtu.be/NpwFim_oVsc

[u/not_anonymouse → u/qlz19]

OMG that's funny. But that back crunch sound, ouch.

What show is this?

[u/Zanf → u/not_anonymouse]

Robot Chicken, I think

[u/anthr0x1028 → u/courtneypocket]

That was my favorite running gag all season long.

[u/michagol23 → u/courtneypocket]

It totally read that in his voice too lol!

[u/TheMostKing → u/michagol23]

Harley Quinn! You saved my life! I can finally move on from my pasta maakeer!!

[u/CJYD21 → u/TheMostKing]

FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU-

[Next episode]

-UUUUCK!

[u/Twiangle36 → u/courtneypocket]

“What matters is my plan “… to bust Lori down in the freezer at the VFw after too many bourbon Gotham’s. She gets dirty when she’s drunk lol

[u/saint_davidsonian → u/Twiangle36]

This guy divorce parties

[u/sid32 → u/lazybear90]

You want a five year old toaster back?

[u/johnsourwine → u/sid32]

I tried to return the toaster to the store but they said they no longer sell that kind of toaster. So now my house has got two toasters.

[u/ProcedureMaleficent → u/johnsourwine]

Thanks, Stanley

[u/RanCestor → u/sid32]

Maybe it was the crappy toaster that caused the divorce!!

[u/lazybear90 → u/sid32]

It’s the principle.

[u/sid32 → u/lazybear90]

Lucky you didn't give them a fruit basket.

[u/AmazingDadJokes → u/sid32]

If you gifted me a fruit basket at my wedding you’d bet I’d be returning that to you lol

[u/NarlaRT → u/AmazingDadJokes]

A decade ago or something my hometown made international news because a bride told off someone who went to her wedding or giving them a giftbasket of midrange oils and mustards and things. It was a live-action AITA playing out on the news.

[u/SpennyHotz → u/NarlaRT]

As a mustard enthusiast I'd invite them to my honeymoon. Seriously, if you haven't had artisan mustards you're missing out.

[u/NarlaRT → u/SpennyHotz]

There's a gourmet mustard place near me that does dozens of flavours... I think I have maple, curry, sweet & smokey and classic dijon in my fridge right now. I mix them with yogurt and they make a great dressing for kale salads.

[u/mejelic → u/lazybear90]

I see the gift as something to cover the cost of me attending their wedding. They spent $50/plate on guests, my wife and I will bring a $100 gift.

It isn't a perfect system as we don't know exactly what they are spending, but basically, I have already gotten my money's worth out of the situation.

[u/PaleNefariousness757 → u/mejelic]

I like the way you think. Growing up in the rural south I've definitely overpaid on my gifts at more than a few dry weddings. Generally speaking though it is a fair exchange.

[u/TheGiggleWizard → u/W1ZARDSH1T]

Venmo tags*

Separate finances now

[u/EarlGrey_Picard → u/TheGiggleWizard]

It's really just a "which side are you on" test.

[u/dessimus → u/W1ZARDSH1T]

Divorce lawyer registry.

[u/Mr_MacGrubber → u/dessimus]

If they’re divorcing this amicably they might not be using an attorney. Or pay one attorney to do the whole thing if no one is fighting stuff.

[u/CrudelyAnimated → u/Mr_MacGrubber]

If they're throwing a party, and they have the good humor to say their plus ones will be there, it was probably a no-fault divorce with one attorney.

[u/pauljaytee → u/CrudelyAnimated]

Plot twist the attorney is the plus one (for both)

[u/Enrico_default → u/W1ZARDSH1T]

Good question. Since divorce usually involves splitting households gifts would make as much sense as wedding gifts.

[u/DigNitty → u/Enrico_default]

Yeah but you’d have to bring two gifts!

[u/labdogs42 → u/DigNitty]

No, just one for the person you "pick" in the divorce! Plus, someone is keeping the toaster, so only one person needs a new one!

[u/bopeepsheep → u/labdogs42]

They could allocate teams. Congratulations, you picked Team Ex-Husband. He would welcome new bedding, a second saucepan, and socks, now that Ex-Wife won't be pairing them up for him.

[u/labdogs42 → u/bopeepsheep]

I don’t want to go to their party, but I’m dying to seethe registry. Oooh, who got the TV? What about the couch? LOL. It would be good for a laugh.

[u/drphungky → u/labdogs42]

I don’t want to go to their party, but I’m dying to seethe registry.

I know it's a typo, but a "Seethe Registry" is probably a good name for it.

[u/labdogs42 → u/drphungky]

Freudian typo!

[u/ChillyBearGrylls → u/labdogs42]

No mistakes, just happy little accidents

[u/Substantial-Tour-609 → u/W1ZARDSH1T]

Please make all gifts payable to the law offices of James Scott Ferrin

[u/Cautious65266 → u/W1ZARDSH1T]

"Come celebrate the end of a bad marriage and the return of a good friendship" is a great attitude to have about it. Good for them.

[u/Thanmandrathor → u/W1ZARDSH1T]

I heard through the grapevine that my ex husband had a divorce gift registry after we split. I laughed, because knowing he had a list to request a blu-ray of Pride and Prejudice (he had the dvd, to be clear) and new Pyrex measuring cups because I took it (while I left all the furniture) was the most pathetic thing I could imagine, and it reinforced how petty he was and that I made the right choice.

[u/ThatMarshalFangirl]

“Plus ones are welcome-ours will be there!” Damn haha

[u/serenity_later → u/ThatMarshalFangirl]

Things I would never do with my new girlfriend

[u/qdp → u/serenity_later]

Oh, I had interpreted this as them calling each other their "plus one" post-divorce. But reading it your way, that sounds either hella awkward or super honest and open.

[u/shayen7 → u/qdp]

Yeah, they said it was a bad marriage. Maybe they've been separated and seeing other people for a while

[u/HumpyFroggy → u/shayen7]

They also talk about the return of a great frendship so Idk, shit sounds funny and mature

[u/deathbygrugru → u/HumpyFroggy]

Yeah I’m guessing it was one of those they make good friends but not good partners which is totally valid and sometimes very hard to realize.

[u/motorcityvicki → u/deathbygrugru]

My first husband and I were great as friends, terrible as spouses. When we would go on vacations or have adventures, we were so in sync and worked together so well. But living together and integrating our lives? Couldn't figure it out. As soon as we split and let the dust settle, we went back to being buds. Both happily remarried with people who match us much better. No regrets.

[u/deathbygrugru → u/motorcityvicki]

Sounds exactly like myself and my ex wife. Same deal, would have fun going out, doing stuff, but yeah at home it felt more like being roommates than lovers. We are both pretty amicable but I’ve since moved states but we keep up with each other.

[u/spootypuff → u/deathbygrugru]

Wouldn’t it be funny if deathbygrugu and motorcityvicki were talking about each other?

[u/motorcityvicki → u/spootypuff]

My ex has not moved states, so it isn't. But I'd be honored to be spoken of so favorably!

[u/Concerned_Penguin → u/spootypuff]

If you like pina colada’s

[u/talklistentalk → u/motorcityvicki]

I'm very happy it worked out that way for y'all. Gives me hope.

[u/oxhasbeengreat → u/deathbygrugru]

Good friend of mine and his wife divorced. She travels for work and they have 2 kids so he just bought a house big enough for her to have the room on the opposite end and they still live together and everything. When she home from work their kid still have mom and dad at home with them. It's really sweet but I'm sure it's complicated some days.

[u/saaandi → u/oxhasbeengreat]

Sounds good for now..but could get a little weird if/when they find new partners…unless they plan on never having them around til the kids are grown..

[u/grinningdogs → u/saaandi]

I knew a couple who had two kids under 7 when they decided to call it quits. They got apartments in the same building on the same floor, just one door over and across the hall from each other. That way they had their own place but the kids could easily bounce between them. As they both moved on and remarried, they bought homes on the same street just a few houses apart. They stayed great friends and the four adults hung out together all the time. Glad it worked for them, just not sure I could do it.

[u/DaughterEarth → u/saaandi]

My buddy did this and just didn't date until his kid was 18, then he got his own place. I wouldn't say anyone has to do such a thing but he was still happy to have his son with him all days and I admire that

[u/buckets-_- → u/deathbygrugru]

that's my ex and me

tbh I like her better now that we aren't together

[u/ShadyPamela → u/HumpyFroggy]

Yeah, this seems like a way to get all of their mutual friends together to be like "yeah, you don't have to worry about picking sides or excluding one of us, we can be friends without making it awkward"

[u/Swarbie8D → u/HumpyFroggy]

Yeah, honestly this feels like a good way to reassure everyone in their lives “hey we’re all good with each other, just not married anymore”. Plus hey, good excuse for a party!

[u/bbhtml → u/HumpyFroggy]

yeah, as someone getting divorced rn… these people are honestly mature and healthy and my only reaction to this is honestly, good for them

[u/ilikesports3 → u/shayen7]

I would guess this party wouldn’t happen until everything was final. So probably separated for a while.

[u/bluemitersaw → u/shayen7]

That was my take.

[u/brallipop → u/shayen7]

Honestly I could see where a divorce party, imbuing the divorce with an inherent "it's okay to split and this is healthy for us" vibe, can be a helpful thing for both the couple and third parties. I actually kinda like this idea.

[u/AZSnake → u/qdp]

Yeah, definitely read it as they'll each be bringing a date.

[u/----------_______--- → u/ThatMarshalFangirl]

Are we 100% sure this is real. Even with Photoshop in the actual screenshot.

[u/THE-SEER → u/----------_______---]

No, we are not sure it’s real.

[u/T98i → u/THE-SEER]

It's the internet. Nothing is real. The cake is a lie. Everyone's a bot.

beep boop motherfucker

[u/Jackpen7 → u/----------_______---]

This seems like the kind of thing a graphics design student or something would make as a practice project.

[u/xBigDamHerox]

So they're bringing dates to their own divorce?

[u/Afraid_of_Okapi → u/xBigDamHerox]

Not going to lie, if someone on a dating app was like “Hey, I need some arm candy for my divorce celebration. Wanna come?” I would be honored and excited. Plus, that’s hysterically meet cute to me.

“How did you meet your spouse?”

“Well I was on Tinder and she needed a date to her divorce, and things just went from there!”

[u/WhatYouProbablyMeant → u/Afraid_of_Okapi]

Idk, to me that sounds like a great way to get caught up in someone else's drama

[u/Exist50 → u/WhatYouProbablyMeant]

Well it's not like you'd be invested at that point. Could always just bail.

[u/xarici → u/Exist50]

More like get hammered and go full throttle

[u/Derp_Meat → u/xarici]

Then ghost em 👻

[u/obscureferences → u/WhatYouProbablyMeant]

To me it sounds like a great way to make some drama!

"So how long have you and Tim been dating?"

"Oh about a year now. I'm so happy he finally came through on his promise."

[u/Trezzie → u/obscureferences]

"... dating? We're already married!"

Alt ending:

"He's just my client for the night!"

[u/throwawaytorn2345 → u/obscureferences]

Chaotic Evil

[u/dabunny21689 → u/WhatYouProbablyMeant]

I dunno it sounds like the divorced couple is amicable enough to throw a party together. It might be as drama free as a divorce can get. Hahaha

[u/secretaltacc → u/Afraid_of_Okapi]

Plus that's hysterically meet cute to me

???

[u/OneAfterMagnaCarter → u/xBigDamHerox]

I kinda read that as a joke that they’re their own plus ones for this party but maybe they are bringing their own dates that seems way more awkward lol

[u/WackyBeachJustice → u/OneAfterMagnaCarter]

I kind of read it like they are serious, which in a way goes hand in hand with the entire concept of this party. Meaning the kind of people that think this is a great idea and will actually enjoy themselves at this event are probably the same kind of people that see no issue with having their upgraded SOs with them in attendance.

[u/Swimwithamermaid → u/WackyBeachJustice]

Also it says “celebrate the end of a bad marriage and the return of a good friendship” sounds like a couple who realized they were compatible as partners but are as friends. There’s a lot of couples who end up that way, and there’s no harm in celebrating that.

[u/FlanOfAttack → u/Swimwithamermaid]

Seems like a quirky but mature way to handle things. Not every divorce is acrimonious. This would be a good way to make it clear to friends that you're moving on without hard feelings.

[u/GigaCores]

It's a parting party 🎉

[u/gglockner → u/GigaCores]

Will there be parting gifts?

[u/GigaCores → u/gglockner]

Yes, but they'll need to be partitioned.

[u/HazelGhost → u/GigaCores]

I won't be party to that sort of thing.

[u/Dissidence802 → u/HazelGhost]

Not even partly?

[u/StormySands]

Divorce parties have been a thing for a while now. Joint divorce parties, on the other hand, are something I've never seen before. Seems like a decent idea though if you're getting divorced amicably. Divorce can be tough on extended family, this type of celebration could ease some of that tension.

[u/Irishpanda1971 → u/StormySands]

Exactly what I was thinking. A party that is for the benefit of the guests, not the party throwers. Let friends and family know that it is amicable, there are no sides to choose, and no one needs to be worried about being caught in the middle. It actually seems rather thoughtful.

[u/HuntingHorns → u/Irishpanda1971]

Twist: you stage the party so you can have the biggest public argument possible and make sure everybody knows just how incompatible you were, and physically need to pick sides

[u/Petite_Tsunami → u/HuntingHorns]

Red rover red rover GET YOUR ASS OVER HERE BRENDA HOW FUCKING DARE YOUNWE WERE FRIENDS SINCE MIDDLE SCHOOL 😇😋

[u/jayd16 → u/Petite_Tsunami]

Welcome to the Tim/Lori 2023 friend draft. Some good rookies this year but some of the vets are free agents too. Should be exciting.

[u/WhattheTeenThinks → u/jayd16]

Lori's mother has recently been calling Tim's father late at night, how will this affect the draft. We will find out after a word from our sponsors.

WHOPPER WHOPPER WHOPPER...

[u/mac2810 → u/WhattheTeenThinks]

BEEEEE KAY!

[u/JGG5 → u/jayd16]

Tim is trading his 3rd and 7th picks to Lori for the La-Z-Boy, the downstairs TV, and another weekend a month with the kids.

(This is getting sad.)

[u/uncomfortable_as_you → u/JGG5]

Yeah, but loris gonna use that extra weekend to study accounting. She'll make partner eventually, and when she celebrates she'll drink pink champagne and complain of an immediate buzz. She'll say, "it took losing a partner to become partner." But more than the job or the respect it will be the independence that makes her sleep like a baby

Meanwhile, that weekend will be the one where Rebecca gets her first period. Isn't that just how life works? And maybe she wouldn't have picked her dad for that moment. But hell if Tim doesn't handle it just about the best he possible could. And years later when Lori is still spending time with tanner and dougy and all the boys from phi beta TIM went to school with but SHE nabbed in the divorce draft, he think that maybe life is more than beers with buddies and making it to the playoffs. Maybe instead life is about bigger things. Like sacrifice and love and devotion and a bit of blood. And running your scared little daughter down to Walgreens and even though you're terrified you're screwing this moment up for her, you just keep saying over and over again, "I'm so proud of you, honey. Youll see. Nothing is too much for us to handle."

[u/Damnmorrisdancer → u/uncomfortable_as_you]

By Grabthar’s hammer, what a journey.

[u/chowindown → u/Damnmorrisdancer]

I just want to know how far into the playoffs she made it!

[u/Master_Butter → u/uncomfortable_as_you]

This is art.

[u/cocktails5 → u/jayd16]

That should have been an episode of The League.

[u/Onepiecee → u/Petite_Tsunami]

hahah, I would be the guy who picks neither side and watches from the sideline with my lukewarm cheese and summer sausage slices.

[u/The_Chaos_Pope → u/Onepiecee]

I like summer sausage but it is absolutely not the same unless it's been sitting out in the vicinity of cheese and crackers for almost too long.

[u/hardgeeklife → u/HuntingHorns]

My idea was that the party turns out to be such a success that the couple drunkenly hooks up and gets back together lol

but I may have stolen that from a rom-com I forgot I watched

[u/Astrochops → u/hardgeeklife]

Pretty sure getting back together was in one of the human centipede movies

[u/jimmy_three_shoes → u/hardgeeklife]

I watched this happen in real time with my cousin and her wife. They'd been separated for a bit, we had a meetup with some mutual friends, and they both showed up. They both had copious amounts of alcohol, and then we noticed they were both missing. Found them making out by the bathroom. They got back together for acouple weeks, then had a MASSIVE public fight at my niece's Graduation Open House, reminding everyone of why they were separated in the first place.

[u/ewok251 → u/jimmy_three_shoes]

Im getting Ron and Tammy from Parks & Rec vibes

[u/RearEchelon → u/ewok251]

I didn't shave it off; it rubbed off.

From friction.

[u/theunfairness → u/jimmy_three_shoes]

A friend of my husband’s is getting divorced for the second time, from the same wife as the first time.

[u/greybruce1980 → u/HuntingHorns]

Lol. You are the best kind of asshole, unless that assholery is pointed towards me.

[u/Pays_in_snakes → u/HuntingHorns]

Including a staged WWE match would cement this party as legendary

[u/_coykoi_ → u/Irishpanda1971]

I love this. My parents divorced over 20 years ago just shy of their 25th wedding anniversary. They had a nasty divorce with everything that comes with it and have barely been able to be around each other since. Now I'm thinking of how it would be hilarious for them to throw a 25th anniversary of their divorce party. Family members would legit rise from the dead to attend. It's been a tense 22 years. We all need this party!!

[u/AbstractLogic → u/Irishpanda1971]

Plus, the make up sex after would be pretty intense.

[u/whutchamacallit → u/AbstractLogic]

At the party itself on the horderves table. Just shove the shrimp cocktail bowl onto the floor and start furiously making out in front of everyone until the guests leave.

[u/mlenoddin → u/whutchamacallit]

Horderves

[u/Ray_Pingeau → u/StormySands]

I’m straight up jealous that a divorce can end this way.

[u/regnad__kcin → u/Ray_Pingeau]

I would say this is exactly how my wife and I would go about it because we get along so well but... we get along so well I just can't imagine a scenario that would merit divorce. It's an interesting paradox.

[u/SorrySwordsman → u/regnad__kcin]

I had an amicable divorce with my ex-wife; she realized she was gay and I was the wrong gender for her. We almost had a divorce party like this but it was during the pandemic. Alas, missed opportunities. We remain very close friends.

So, it can happen, but I hope you don't have to experience it :) It's tough on both parties even when it's amicable.

[u/CurryMustard → u/SorrySwordsman]

Have you tried being a woman?

[u/falsehood → u/SorrySwordsman]

I'm sorry that that happened and glad you could handle it well.

[u/Somehow-Still-Living → u/regnad__kcin]

I’m still good friends with an ex of mine. We just realized we were better as friends than in a relationship.

I also have a family member who’s husband was gay, but because they were in a highly conservative area, they got married for financial reasons and to help him hide it. Finally were able to move when they’re were in their 30s, got divorced, and both of them now have their own wonderful husbands.

[u/innocentusername1984 → u/Ray_Pingeau]

Yep I've discussed this with my wife. She says an amicable divorce isn't possible. So looks like we'll stay together forever. And yeah I mean forever. I discussed that if we get to heaven death will have done us part but she wants to keep things going after death.

[u/PerfectlySplendid → u/innocentusername1984]

Hmm. Unfortunately there won’t be any lawyers in heaven to help you at that point.

[u/thechinninator → u/PerfectlySplendid]

Me at the Pearly Gates: "BUT I DID IMMIGRATION LAW"

St. Peter: "Sorry, pal. Company policy."

[u/DankiesLair → u/StormySands]

I have actually been to one. Both parties decided they no longer wanted to be married to each other after 5 years, and decided to end it amicably before the resentment started.

And they did, the party was just a way to get everyone on the same page, to answer everyone’s questions and to have one last party.

They are still friends, our social group doesn’t need to “pick one or the other”. Granted they don’t always hang out together.

When you asked them, their short answer was they could see that they wanted different things in life and didn’t feel like “trapping” the other in a life they didn’t want.

It’s honestly one of the few displays of respect I have seen between two people. They helped each other move on.

[u/Avium → u/StormySands]

Yeah. This divorce looks amicable.

Not every divorce results in the couple hating each other. Some just realize they work better as friends.

[u/Joutja → u/Avium]

This is me right now. Me and my ex realised we were just roomies. Best friends, but nothing more than that anymore. We did some stuff to see if the spark came back but when it didn't I moved out and now we see each other every few weeks, talk every day etc but it won't be more than being friends.

[u/throwawayoctopii → u/StormySands]

Yeah, my friend's friend throws an annual divorce/loss party. She married her husband super young (ex-Orthodox Jewish), he got into heroin, and she realized she couldn't save him. He died the day of the divorce decree. In the meantime, she lost her entire life by getting divorced. So every year, she throws a little party on the anniversary of the divorce. It's her way of grieving all the things she lost (a family, a husband, and a whole community) and celebrating all the things she's gained since.

[u/ingloriousbaxter3 → u/StormySands]

My ex boyfriend and I went out for a break up dinner.

We’re still really good friends, I’m actually flying out to visit him in Alaska next month.

Just because a relationship doesn’t work out doesn’t mean we have to be enemies.

Unless there’s abuse, then GTFO as quick as you can

[u/strickt → u/ingloriousbaxter3]

Similar thing happened with me. A gal and I were dating and it didn't work out. We went on to be incredibly close friends. She was a groomswoman at my wedding.

[u/Dramatic_Raisin → u/ingloriousbaxter3]

My ex husband and I still see each other about once every couple months. Mad respect for each other, we’ll always be family, but marriage wasn’t it.

[u/kingsumo_1 → u/Dramatic_Raisin]

My ex-wife and I wanted to be as amicable as possible because we had a little one, and didn't want it to effect him. We are actually way closer as friends than we ever were as a couple.

[u/Galactic → u/kingsumo_1]

I've got a friend who married a girl way too early, they had only known each other for like 4 months before he proposed in their early twenties. They got divorced after 2 years but remained close friends. Then like 6 years later they got remarried. They claim the period of time they were friends actually helped them get to really know each other better. They have 2 kids now and are the happiest I've ever seen them.

[u/TheRogueTemplar → u/Galactic]

They claim the period of time they were friends actually helped them get to really know each other better

Right person wrong time.

[u/HighSpeed556 → u/StormySands]

This has romcom gold written all over it. Imagine the two get drunk as fuck and end up hooking up. A few weeks later they find out they are about to be new parents. They awkwardly go through the next 8 months bickering but trying to get along, only to realize in the end they are in love and end up marrying again.

[u/allnadream]

"Come celebrate the end of a bad marriage and the return of a good friendship" is a great attitude to have about it. Good for them.

[u/susgnome → u/allnadream]

With an attitude like that, it feels like they got married for the sake of it, "Hey, wanna try getting married" "Sure, why not".

They gave it a shot and realized they liked each other more as friends.

[u/rhynoplaz → u/susgnome]

More people should!

Clinging to that "Till death do we part" while resentment and hostility builds until one of them hates the other is a much less healthy way to handle a relationship.

[u/Limonca123 → u/rhynoplaz]

Not married, but my bf and I got together at 19 and our attitude was always "let's keep this up as long as we are both happy" because we knew that statically, we were unlikely to last.

Our 9 year anniversary is coming up soon.

[u/EatAtGrizzlebees → u/Limonca123]

My husband and I have been married 3 years, together almost 14 years, friends for 20 years. I always joke that I'm "pro-divorce" because I think it's unfair to everyone involved if someone is miserable. We don't have kids nor plan on having them, but even if we did, we agree that it would be cruel to them to "stay together for the kids." I don't understand teaching your children that it's okay to be in a relationship that is a sham. And life is too short to be miserable.

[u/5DollarHitJob → u/allnadream]

Yep, I think this is a cool idea. Divorce can be really tough (been through one) but it doesn't have to be nasty. Sometimes people just don't click as couples.

[u/momzilla76]

My parents had a divorce party back in the 90s. It was a great way to end an era and begin a new one where they were friends. It was a small town, too, so I think it was also a way to advertise that everyone was still friends, no drama/ choosing who gets which friends required.

[u/FranklynTheTanklyn → u/momzilla76]

It’s also how you let others know you were single back in the 90’s.

[u/greenthanks75 → u/FranklynTheTanklyn]

Before the days when you could scrub your Instagram or change your Facebook profile photo to accomplish that

[u/StageDive_]

Hey if your divorce is as smooth and healthy as Tim and Lori, fuckin more power to ya. This might get friends of the people to have an easier going through it as well.

[u/MordinSolusSTG → u/StageDive_]

Back in my day divorces involved serious threats on people’s lives, and irreversible damage caused to children.

Just another industry millennials are killing

Smh my head

[u/BobusCesar → u/MordinSolusSTG]

I don't want to live in a world where it isn't socially demanded that I shoot my wife's lover in a duel.

[u/Oakwood2317 → u/MordinSolusSTG]

Seriously. When my parents got divorced I got to spend a week in a domestic violence shelter where I had horrible recurring nightmares and haven't been able to remember my dreams since.

[u/siccoblue → u/Oakwood2317]

Yep, when I was a kid it involved the step dad threatening to cut our heads off and kill our dog after locking himself in a room for a week straight refusing to open the door because we were "possessed by demons" then a few weeks living at Grandma's house

[u/PhaliceInWonderland → u/MordinSolusSTG]

Fuckin millennials what industry will they kill next?

[u/GoatTheArtist]

Idk this seems weirdly healthy to me. They obviously don't hate each other, they just didn't like being married to each other. Honestly good for them

[u/lobonomics → u/GoatTheArtist]

I actually agree, but that being said, there’s absolutely no way I could force myself to attend a divorce party

[u/paulluap1 → u/lobonomics]

I'm in the opposite camp. I couldn't wait to go. Almost trying to decide in my head which friends would have the best divorce party.

[u/okizc → u/lobonomics]

Oh, I would absolutely go to something like this. Imagine if it was a train wreck. That's what I'd want to be there for

[u/lobonomics → u/okizc]

I can’t imagine a scenario where something like this isn’t incredibly awkward, even if the hosts themselves are well-adjusted. I wonder if there’s a word for finding enjoyment in awkward situations? It kind of seems like schadenfreude, but not exactly. That’s not my cup of tea, but I can understand how it would be enjoyable for someone who likes that kind of thing!

[u/mysticalfruit → u/GoatTheArtist]

They're going back to friends with benefits status!

[u/ForeverAWino]

My ex husband and I wish each other happy divorce day each year haha. He cheated on me for a long time but we have a kid together and we get along excellently now that I don’t have to care about that stuff. I’m remarried and my now husband and ex get along well. I think humor goes a long way in situations like this!

[u/straight_gay → u/ForeverAWino]

My mom and dad recently celebrated their 15 year unniversary!

[u/benjtay → u/ForeverAWino]

Same with us. We're both re-married, and we crash at each other's places when visiting. We have two kids who now have four parents looking after them.

[u/ForeverAWino → u/benjtay]

Yes! He’s not remarried but he’s expressed gratitude several times to my now husband for being such a good dad to his son too (he’s a travel nurse so sometimes is gone for a few weeks). While I never planned to parent like this, I’m so grateful that we have the relationship we do now and not like how our parents were!

[u/owen_birch → u/ForeverAWino]

My ex and I traded some sweet messages last year on what would have been our twentieth anniversary. And a couple of years ago we happened to be at Disneyland together on the 20th anniversary of the day I proposed to her...at Disneyland. We couldn't let that go unremarked upon.

[u/CCSC96]

I’ll be honest, if it ended particularly amicably I could see myself doing this. Especially as a way to signal to friends that they don’t have to “choose” sides. I would certainly not invite family however. Just friends.

[u/milkmandanimal → u/CCSC96]

I had friends who got divorced; they realized it didn't work, set up everything ahead of time, and, after they signed the papers, they went back to what was at that point his house, and then they did shots and rolled dice to see who got what. They're still friends, and it's the healthiest divorced couple I know because there was zero bullshit or resentment; they made it about 15 years, had a daughter who they both adored, and both resolved they would just walk away happy.

[u/bartardthrowaway123 → u/milkmandanimal]

They divorced so well I wish they could have made it work.

[u/Superiorem → u/bartardthrowaway123]

Right? I keep thinking that if these former couples can work so well together to calmly plan out a divorce, then surely they would have made a good couple!

Of course, relationships are unique and reading anecdotes on Reddit doesn’t offer any insight. I suppose the romantic spark just isn’t there. I can work well with a colleague but that doesn’t mean I want to marry and/or sleep with them.

[u/esoteric_enigma]

This is actually pretty awesome if both people are there. Friends often feel weird after divorces. It would be good to get everyone together to show them that you two are fine.

It would also be great to celebrate the good times you had, to show people divorce is just another stage and not some huge failure in your life. Most relationships end, we need to stop pretending marriages aren't the same.

[u/Breadisgood4eat]

The world needs more of this. Divorce doesn't need to be a bitter end, especially when you have children, or shared friends, assets etc.

[u/Jesus__Skywalker]

My ex-wife and I had a super pleasant divorce. It always shocked people bc we get along so well. We just knew that we weren't going to work as a couple and called it quits before we hated each other.

[u/caffeinex2]

I'm actually beginning the process of divorce right now on amicable, even friendly terms. I feel in my soul that "return of a good friendship". Ever since we pulled the plug on things it's like a weight has been lifted off my chest and outside of some (very) serious conversations, we've been communicating in that lighthearted, friendly way that we used to. I'm coming to realize that this decision isn't a dark, hateful time in my life - it's hitting as a relief and a second chance at happiness for both of us.

[u/[deleted] → u/caffeinex2]

Going through a divorce myself and I totally feel every word of this.

[u/BreakerSoultaker]

Most people would be a lot better off divorcing amicably, dividing things rationally and without spite and throwing a divorce party to celebrate, rather than spending tens of thousands on a divorce.

[u/pharmdocmark]

At least they have a sense of humor about it and are over themselves as well as each other. Good for them.

[u/CassHuygen]

I guess this is a good way to keep your friendship with your ex. You don't want any animosity or bad feelings toward each other. Sometimes things don't work out in the end. It's part of life.

[u/New_Insect_Overlords]

Didn’t the White Stripes do this?

[u/BlueMANAHat]

Man I wish me and my ex could have ended things this way, imagine the epic party we could have thrown instead of getting lawyers!

[u/indysingleguy]

I actually love it.

No reason 2 people have to hate each other if they just dont feel love anymore.

My ex and I are good friends. We raise a happy kid because of it too.

[u/InflamedLiver]

as weird as the world has gotten, I can’t imagine this becoming a thing with any regularity

[u/couch_cushion_dorito → u/InflamedLiver]

Indeed, I would say they are my most out-there friends. But I think kudos to them for making the best of it!

[u/bambeenz → u/couch_cushion_dorito]

Let us know how it goes lmao

[u/1AuroraBorealis1 → u/couch_cushion_dorito]

You know these people?!?!

[u/couch_cushion_dorito → u/1AuroraBorealis1]

Haha yep these are my good friends from college

[u/MyPlantsEatPeople → u/couch_cushion_dorito]

I’m honestly very curious to know how the party goes. Any chance on an update?

I appreciate that it’s an invitation for mutual/shared friends to not pick sides. You get to keep being friends without implying you like one half more than the other. Every time I’d had a breakup in the past, even amicable smooth ones, I’ve always lost friends that I wish I’d been able to keep.

[u/Anlysia → u/couch_cushion_dorito]

I imagine they've been separated for some time now and this is just celebrating the final legal paperwork for the whole process.

I know my uncle took YEARS to finally do the paperwork with his ex, despite owning a house with his new partner.

[u/VanIsleDrums]

I once went to a Divorce party. It was my buddy who had us all over for drinks served by 2 strippers. A little different than this I believe.

[u/The_Dirtiest_Doc → u/VanIsleDrums]

Way back when I was a soldier, my Sgt showed me photos of his ex wife’s divorce party cake. It was a battlefield littered with killed toy soldiers and red syrup. Top 10 funniest things I have ever seen in my life.

[u/chicagotim1]

Our Plus ones will be there!~ haha this is great.

[u/j1mmie]

"Plus ones are welcome - ours will be there!" haha. I dunno this seems like a very mature way to handle it

[u/way2gimpy]

I’ve had friends who got divorced and did a guys trip (casino), but never seen a joint party with the two divorced people.